How do i break my 10 month old out of having to have me in the same room with her to play with her toys?

Question

i can't do anything with out her follow me around crying

i have put her in her play room and done dishes which she can see me and she just cries i talk to her and everything i have even played music while talkng thinking one might help. i cant even go to the rest room haha and i love her and love how she loves to be around me but i cant even take a shower haha and she can see me then too its a glass door shower

alot of you ppl are saying give her a toy play away then say youll; be back well i have done that she drpos her toy can comes after me

Answer 1

Let her cry. No your not a bad mommy for doing this. It is just Separation Anxiety she is experiencing. Hard for mommy & baby, & from my understanding, it only gets worse. Bare with her crying as long as you can take it. My one year old crys every nite at bedtime when i put her in her crib. She'll cry for about 5-10 minutes and then go to sleep. Trust me, its not easy, especially for a working mother. All you can do is build up enough strengh to cope with those heart felt crocodille tears! I know its hard, but thats one of the priceless benifits of being a parent♥

Good Luck♥

Answer 2

I really feel for you here and its soooo nice to hear some one else going through what I'm going through. I have a little girl who is now 17 months, and my, what a long 17 months it has been!! its so easy for everyone to say "just tell her you'll be right back...but I know that does not work. My little one is fine when I am giving her full attention, playing with her toys but as soon as I stand up....my god...she crys as if the worlds going to come to an end. I tell her that I am just going to pop the kettle on and will be right back but no way can I do that. She ends up coming with me!! I shower everyday and she used to scream the bathroom down when I was showering that in the end after months of taking showers with her screaming, I let her in...now she showers with me cause it keeps the peace!! The worst time for me is when I am trying to prepare tea, I put her toys right next to me on the floor so she can play, but if I am doing other things, she hates it. times are so hard at the moment. I really don't know what to say to you, other than you are not alone! I hate to say it but some kids are just easier than others. please let me know if any thing works for you. I just hope in time as she can speak, things will get easier.

Answer 3

It's a phase. Let her bring in her toys to whatever room you are working in. Set a schedule for playtime just as you do for meals and naps. She will get an idea of what to expect. Now if she's not happy playing by herself at all I would simply reassure her that you are there and go about your business but in the same room but when you are done play with her for a little while.

Answer 4

As with everything else at this age it is just a phase. She's just realising that you are the most important thing in her world and the thought of you going away terrifies her. Try to have an area in each room that she can be safe in and still see you. Also talk about what you are doing and show her things, this will keep her distracted and improve her language skills - and she loves hearing the sound of your voice.

Answer 5

Try some "be right back" activities.

Help her start to play with a toy or to get involved in an activity and then say mommy be right back and step out of the room and out of sight for like three seconds then come back in and say “I’m back”.

Just keep doing this for longer and longer periods.

Don’t every forget to say goodbye when you leave her.

Answer 6

Gosh that sounds familiar! I have found that typically, my infant wants to be near me and see what I'm doing.

The best way to do this when she was younger was to carry her about in a Snugli babypack. Now that she's older (and heavier), if she gets clingy, I put her in the highchair and bring her close to where "the action is" and give her things to play with. I've also mastered one-handed typing so I can breastfeed while checking my email.

The clingy wailing gets old, but cheer up; they grow so fast, and soon you'll be sad that she doesn't seem to need you so much!

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

I went through the exact thing with my son. Do NOT ignore your child, but simply tell your child that you are cleaning"or what ever your doing" and that you will play with her when you are through. That's that. Do not give her attention when she is crying. When she stops crying play with her for awhile( I did 10-20 minutes at a time). Then you tell her, I have "something" to do. Do it.. Keep this up and Im sure you will get her to stop. Just remember when you give in when she is crying, you are enabling her. You are the parent and you need to let her know that(I know she is only a baby, but they learn young.)

This helped my child alot!! My Ped. reccommended it and it saved my sanity>> Good luck... and remember do not pay attention to her when she is crying.....

Answer 8

When the child starts to play, tell him that "Mommy, will be right back." Leave, and then return almost immediately. Let the time grow between each return, and eventually the child will accept that you are out of the room. At that point just check back occasionally, and make sure she is alright.

Answer 9

She probably panics when she can't see you. You could put the monitor in there and talk away so she can hear you. Or you could put a video on of some of her favorite shows so she thinks that she is not alone. She may just want to hear your voice. Take care Heather

Answer 10

I do not want to sound mean but a 10 month old baby should not really be left in a room alone. Try to be more patient and remember that she is just a baby