my ex tore me up inside. he was my highschool sweetheart, we dated for 2 years. i loveD him. he broke up with me right before halloween! he moved to the philippines for college, and it wasnt a month and hes found another girl. how does someone who says he loves you so much turn around and find someone new so quick! i dont understand. im struggling through all of this. i feel like i HATE him so much, but i still love him. i want him to be happy. SOMEBODY SLAP ME! im having a hard time getting back into the dating scene. whats sad is im only 20 too. :(
2007-02-06 07:44:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
only 20, move on. I know its easier said than done but you have your whole life ahead, have fun, go with the girls, get the man out of your system, he wasn't worth the effort. Men lie to get what they want, they are not always honest. They cheat, and do things behind your back, you just have to be ready to move on when they do and you find out, and now is the time to move on. Find a real man. Don't communicate with him. Love him until you find the next one who comes around and knocks your socks off, and you will, men are a dime a dozen, might as well do some shopping around!
2007-02-06 07:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are not alone. This happens to everyone who falls in love and gets dumped. What will make you feel better? Time. Time and a good hobby. Find something you like to do that does not involve any boy. I started a scrapbook of my life without any boys in it. That helped me focus on my life as an individual. By the way, you never know what God has in store for you. A year after my ex dumped me (for someone else he was seeing the whole time we were together) I started dating someone new. We dated for 5 weeks and he proposed. That was last summer, now we have been married for 1 month, and God continually blesses us. Pray, ask God for help, he can be the most awesome boyfriend you've ever had.
2007-02-06 15:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to move on find somebody that's right for you. I went through the same thing except he didn't moved he still lived right up the street from me and we dated for 5 years we broke up when i was 18 and he started dating a girl within a month and they are still together to this day and he cheats on her badly I'm glad i moved on because i found someone who makes me extremely happy treats me like a queen and takes great care of me and my son. You want him to be happy but YOU deserve to be happy as well so just put your feelings for him aside lock them away and give somebody else a chance to really love you and you will be ok. Good Luck!
2007-02-06 15:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by reses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, I know it hurts right now but I am going through the same thing everyone says I could do better. But I'm stuck on this jerk. And really truly is a JERK. I'm sure you don't deserve to be treated like that but you are 20! And thank goodness you are gonna have one heck of a wonderful life full of adventures awaiting you the moment you allow it to. The thing alot of us don't realize is exactly how much control we do have over our lives. Once we tell ourselves it will be OK...It will. And you will fall in love again. And perhaps this one will give you the love and respect you deserve. But don't push it. Find beauty in the world and people around you and good things will come.
God Bless
2007-02-06 15:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by Hollygood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to get busy with something else. If you're not ready to date, then don't. That part is simple. You will just have to let time heal your wounds. One day you will wake up, and he won't even be a thought in your head. No one can say anything to make the pain go away. Especially a stranger. But advice can help you to move on. Get your mind on something new. Something exciting. Then when you're least expecting it, a guy will fall in your lap! You'll be fine. God doesn't let us go through anything we CAN'T handle. Just keep that fresh in your mind too.
2007-02-06 15:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll get over it. Your only twenty. Your tooooo young to be in such a serious relationship anyway. People do a lot of changing in their 20's. Anyway in the Philippines woman through themselves at foreigners so you are better off he broke up with you.
2007-02-06 15:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by mrrparker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you're having such a tough time. I hope you get over him soon and feel better. Get out in the world and have FUN! Maybe the RX you need is to find another guy. Good luck.
2007-02-06 15:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by I know, I know!!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was an idiot...don't worry one day he will regret ever letting you out of his life...but you should move on and seriously try and find someone to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. You are way to young to let this guy do this to you...
2007-02-06 15:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by wbyrdie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He went to the Philippines ma... Girls there r like Kryptonite to american men. It's the way it is.
2007-02-06 15:48:34 · answer #9 · answered by jayfrezzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya just gotta get over it... try a 7 yr relationship!!
2007-02-06 15:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by mdlbldrmatt135 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋