Im in my mid-twenties and just moved into a new apt. A girl that lives above me that I kept seeing asked around me to go to dinner with her one night. Wasnt sure if it was romantic or just friends. we subsequently hung out a bunch of times after that for about a month. Then this past weekend, I went over there and asked her to dinner and she said she already ate. Went over there again the next day just to visit and she acted like she didnt want me there and i was annoying her. just last weekend she was really into me and this weekend she's suddenly not? what's the deal?
oh and also, still wasnt sure if it wasnt romantic, i never made a move. ok yeah so im bad at this.
2007-02-06 07:43:18 · 19 answers · asked by LawDude 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the great answers. I think im just gonna hang back and see if she shows interest again.
2007-02-07 01:55:29 · update #1
So, you're a nice, respectful guy and that's a good thing. She probably felt like you might not be into her. Time to try to talk to her about it and get things out in the open. It will all work out. If not with her, with someone else who will appreciate a guy like you. And no, you're not wierd!
2007-02-06 07:47:54 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not weird, but I'm thinking maybe you were a little too eager. She probably was trying to be polite at first, since you were new, and she most likely thought you were a really great person, and wanted to hang out with you. I'm guessing she didn't think anything of it because you didn't make a move. Girls are kind of forward.
I'm not really sure why she's acting the way she is, but maybe it's because she's scared you're coming onto her or something. I'm not saying that you are, but it might seem that way to her. You might want to just take it a little slower, and if she still doesn't loosen up, talk to her about it.
Hope this helped.
2007-02-06 15:51:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sahana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay brother, here is my thought on it....
She was either looking to just find someone to "shag" with for the night, ya know a "bootie call". Or she WAS interested in you, thought you were cute and what not but she's changed her mind(typical). Or she's playing hard to get. Some ladies like a little chase.
Maybe there was another guy on his way and she didn't want to mess-up her "game".
In any event I would suggest asking her to hang out once more (you know, feed the cat and mouse game a little more) and If she sends a bad vibe at you, or has an excuse not to go,.... time to bail man. You don't want to look hung up on her.
By the way, No. Your not weird, Women play games for one reason or another, just don't get "caught-up" in it.
Good Luck.
2007-02-06 15:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by Blueryno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell what her attitude is from this, but then again I guess your not quite sure yourself. (lol). Honestly I wouldnt bother. Wait till she comes to you and Im sure she will, if not then oh well. But she could have been going through something or that time of the month and she doesnt want to be bothered. Give it time and see what comes of it. Sometimes that hard to get stuff actually works. But who really knows. Or if your that curious you could always ask but I really wouldnt advice that. You dont want to come off desperate unless you feel you guys had that time of relationship. I hope I was helpful.
2007-02-06 15:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by babi_gurl513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you're wondering? Man, you hang around a lady for a month and you're thinking whether she was just doing it out of kindness? No wonder she couldn't stand your guts after that... Pssst I got a secret: SHE OBVIOUSLY LIKED YOU!!!!!
Well she made the first move, asking you out for dinner and all. And then it kindda came "naturally". And then you busted it: how? by not making the "second" move. ;-)
Ladies mate, what to do... =)
2007-02-06 15:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by MowGI M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember Females have a 28 day personality, so i think shes going through one of the harsh ones at the moment. Lol, Nah i am just kidding, i think she might have someone else or you must of done something to anoy her.
2007-02-06 15:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by kalloggs40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She thinks you are whats called a **** wit. Stop messing with her mind tell her you like her has more than a friend. If I am right it will take assumimg you phone her at 6 pm 36 hour for her to reponded.
2007-02-06 15:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by froggerty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not weird. i think she saw you and thought you were really nice but after hanging out with you she probably realize you weren't her type. or she probably felt that you weren't into her because you didn't make a move. so she's trying to ignore you now. or she probably was in a bad mood when you tried to hang with her and bring her to dinner. who knows.............. talk to her and let her know how you feel and then i hope she will reciprocate. good luck
2007-02-06 15:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anna Banana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was interested in you romantically but since you didn't make a move she's either embarassed to see you or just plain bitter.
2007-02-06 15:46:59 · answer #9 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take things slow. women have mood swings and it happens all the time so i say either stay away from her and find some 1 else or hold on to her and go through a rollercoaster and get sick and tired of it.
2007-02-06 15:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋