My family doesn't but my husband's family does and it drives me crazy! I feel like we are the couple that does everything right and still my husband's family treats us like the outsiders. For some reason, doing the wrong thing is rewarded in his family. What I mean by all of this is they don't give credit to the ones who finish school, go to college, get married before having a family. Instead they support the ones that are not married, have multiple kids and a whole history of problems. I don't get it. My husband says they are the ones who need the help and I agree but why not invite us to family events and why do they support them more than us?
2007-02-06 07:35:42 · 7 answers · asked by Mrs_Rivera2U 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
April, you sound like an extraordinary young woman! Keep your head up. Thanks to everyone who wrote, all of your advice and words of encouragement are very helpful.
2007-02-06 08:47:53 · update #1
All families have favorites mine included. I am happy with my husband, love my kids, my life and although my mother tries to pick apart all these things, I carry on (most times by hanging up on her). My siblings are rated by what they do for my mother but only one is the favorite, we all know it and he knows it too. I love my family but I will not let them bring me down, they have to live with themselves, I don't (thankfully).
Family events that your not invited to may seem hurtful but be the better person and just shrug it off, it's their loss not yours. The support they get, I'd guess that they are just a bit too needy, to the point of useless, move on, your stronger than them.
Just be thankful for all that you have and forget about being unfairly treated, it just doesn't really matter. Don't let them ever bring you down, be strong and be happy with your life.
2007-02-06 08:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by trojan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I jokingly refer to my husband's twin brother as "The Golden Child."
The Golden Child is the firstborn, my husband was a surprise-- no one knew their mother was even having twins until he "came out," and their little brother is exactly one year to the day younger so I'm guessing he wasn't planned!
GC stayed at home with his parents (he did go to technical school and worked and supported himself so he wasn't mooching) after the other two moved out.
He doesn't drink or smoke and is a devout Christian who reads his Bible and goes to church. He has never had a serious girlfriend and is saving himself for marriage (to some nice girl with the same values).
His mother ADORES him! The sun rises and sets on GC! When GC followed in my husband's footsteps and enlisted in the Marines, she had a fit! And when he was sent to Iraq, she canceled the family holiday get-togethers!
And yet, I can honestly say GC is not affected by the preferential treatment. He's a really nice guy and doesn't seem to take his mother's abundance of affection too seriously.
Hey, April (your answer is above mine) are you old enough to meet my brother-in-law???
2007-02-06 07:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Angela B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Needless to say I know exactly how you feel, not my spouse, but my father's side of the family. Me and all my eight sisters are virgins, we're all ambitious, beautiful, most of us have great personalities, we're Christians, and we're good girls. But instead of coming to our graduations or even getting to know us they worship and give all the attention to my cousins who don't do anything but cause trouble and to other family members who have lost their way. We have just learned to take our stregnth from each other. Especially when they stopped inviting us to family get-togethers because they said we were too "preachy". This upset me, but eventually I got over it. People like this never change, the world is like this. They give all the opportunities for bad children where good children have none. Bad children get praised and attention where most of us good children don't, it's not fair but that's life.
2007-02-06 07:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by April 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 12:27:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fam swears that they don't, but they do. Human nature to gravitate to someone who you can get along with....and not for the other.They r WRONG!!! Your husband is right to a point but he better speak up and say something!!
2007-02-06 07:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always treated my daughters equally, although one ask for help more than the others.
2007-02-06 08:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by LucyBoop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
???? good ? no right answer
2007-02-06 07:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by greengrass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋