I have been with my boyfriend for a while now and he proposed to me about 5 months ago. I said yes, the only thing is, I am not sure when to tie the knot. I am absolutely in love but I want to wait until after college. I am going to a 2 year technical school and am hoping to get a job at the hospital closest to home. what should I do?
2007-02-06 07:22:01 · 16 answers · asked by Kimmy-berly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Any time is a good time - but I personally would do it sooner rather than later. I'm not really sure what your situation is - are you moving away to go to college? If so, it would probably be better to wait to get married, but be ready that things might change while you two are apart. If you're not moving away - then get married soon; you can still pursue your education and your career while being married, just don't get pregnant right away. Good luck.
2007-02-06 08:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might sound like it's coming out of left field, but is it possible someone in his life (parents, sibs) is pressuring him to make an honest woman out of you? I'm asking because normally I'd totally agree with whoever said these are usually "shut her up" proposals. It's not a real proposal, nor is it an engagement. The guy does it to get his gf off his back. But it doesn't sound like you've been pushing this at all, so something else is driving him. The one thing that's obvious is you aren't communicating with him. At all. It doesn't matter how long you've been together, the kids, the home, etc if you both aren't being fully honest with each other. The questions you're asking at the end are questions you should be asking him, but in adult level communication, you don't let him get away with evasions. This is your future, too, and for a 27 year old, you seem really passive about it. And the reason you're having doubts about everything is you aren't demanding he be gut level honest about all of it. If you knew where he was coming from, you wouldn't have doubts. His behavior seems incredibly manipulative. He's dangling it in front of you and then taking it away. But to be a little blunt, this can't happen without your permission. So demand that he talk to you thoroughly about all of it.
2016-05-24 00:22:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until a few months after graduation. Weddings are expensive, and even if you have all the help in the world planning it, it is VERY STRESSFUL and very time consuming. I got married almost two years to the day after my husband proposed. It seem like a long time, but almost 18 months of that was planning and coordination of the whole wedding, which while working 60 hours a week is exhausting.
2007-02-06 07:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by Catherine T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is not other reason to get married, then I suggest you wait til after you've graduated and saved up some $. You want to have a happy life together without the worries of money and job. You will feel much better if you did.
2007-02-11 09:24:37 · answer #4 · answered by trottergirl80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After college is best for you, but it depends on him too. How "ready" does he want to merry you? If he accept to keep you the same status as you are now, then you can get married now. If he expects you to change a lot that affect you school, then you are not ready.
Wish both of you have a good time together.
2007-02-06 07:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by Henry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are finished with school and get a job. In the mean time, save money for your wedding or to buy a house. Finishing school first will be more beneficial for your relationship and for yourself.
2007-02-06 07:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Finish school. If he is willing to wait till then by all means finish your education. So when your wedding comes you'll a good job and an amazing wedding
2007-02-06 07:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by ARACELI T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should totally wait til you are done with school, I think. BUT its up to the two of you. Do it when you are both ready. Sometimes when you are in school and planning a wedding it is hard on you and it will show in your grades at school. Just something to think about.
2007-02-06 07:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, the decision is yours. However, I would wait until you are done with school. Planning a wedding can be time consuming and distracting and you don't want that to have a negative impact on your education.
2007-02-06 09:27:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really a personal decision but your best bet is to finish school. If he really loves you he will wait. If you wait you will have more time to plan and save.
2007-02-06 07:31:54 · answer #10 · answered by ~kim~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋