My fiancee has a problem after a few drinks he starts stumbling and verbally abusive towards me. Im afraid that he will ruin our wedding night! But due to a special occasion he should respect my wishes! WHAT DO U THINK?
2007-02-06 07:15:07 · 40 answers · asked by ARACELI T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think you are crazy to be marrying someone that has a drinking problem and then verbally abuses you!
2007-02-06 07:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋
Uh if he is verbally abusive towards you when he is drunk then dont even bother having drinks there because he will want to drink. IT is not a question of should you let him. The question is will he drink? And for sure he will. I would really think twice about marrying him if you know he is verbally abusive towards you when he gets drunk. How is he when he is not drunk?
2007-02-06 08:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if thats how you feel then no thats the one thing you dont want to ruin your wedding. Its your wedding,,,,,,,Let him have a drink at the toast and wait til the end, but maybe he has a problem if hes verbally abusive to u. Think about that before the wedding. Good luck.
2007-02-06 07:50:55 · answer #3 · answered by kelcy129 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
. Why marry someone you do not trust ? You need to sit down and clear this up before you get married .You are seriously in trouble with this situation .The problem is his attitude towards you .Does he think its okay to behave in this way ,you are out of your depth.It is not just a question of the Reception / Wedding Night. it is about the rest of your life .Ignore this advice at your own peril. He will not change .What happens when you have children ? Do you think they would like their Father to drink and be abusive.
2007-02-06 07:26:12 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If it is how he reacts to ingesting then he shouldn't drink in any respect. you will possibly desire to not settle for his abusive habit on any point at any time ever. that's abuse. Being that, even verbal, is abuse. If he's that way while he's ingesting then the probable hood of him behaving like that once he isn't ingesting is surprisingly extreme. do not enter into this Marriage gently. surprisingly if he isn't keen to abstain from ingesting. particular social gathering or not he does not might desire to be ingesting in any respect thinking his abusive habit while he consumes alcohol. i could heavily reassess this determination to flow into into Marriage with this guy if he insist on persevering with this unfavourable habit. i be attentive to which you have have been given made plans and issues are interior the works. Deposits have probable been made. have self assurance me, being married to an abusive inebriated isn't worth it. If he would be unable to abstain for one social gathering, then he has a concern and he desires help.
2016-09-28 12:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by faim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think about this before you marry this person, you said he gets verbally abusive do you think this is going to go away? Ruining your wedding night can be prevented by not getting married.
2007-02-06 07:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He becomes abusive after a few drinks -- and you are planning on marrying him?? Where is your common sense? I'd suggest counseling for both of you before any wedding!
2007-02-06 10:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here's a saving grace for the groom. Talk with the bar tender and set up two groom bottles====one that looks like whiskey and one that looks like vodka (tea and water respectively). That when his friends try to get him so drunk that he can't do what he is supposed to do on his wedding nite (lol) he can still have a drink and be sociable without getting trashed. When you make the suggestion to him, you'll have your answer. If he thinks it is more important that he drink with the boys than have sex with you..RUN
2007-02-06 13:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why are you going to marry him when he is verbally abusive?
I'd rather you wait until he seeks help for his abusiveness and show that he has changed and then get married in a few years instead of possibly marrying this jerk and he starts PHYSICALLY abusing you, then having it transfer to your children.
Please rethink this "marriage"
2007-02-06 08:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure champagne for the toast will be fine. But if he is abusive toward you when drinking, you had better keep him off of the sauce...or else you shouldn't marry him at all.
2007-02-06 07:27:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he get's verbally abusive towards you after a few drinks and your not married yet may God be with you after you get married. Because it is not going to get any better.
2007-02-06 07:19:56 · answer #11 · answered by shay 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋