My fiancee has a problem after a few drinks he starts stumbling and verbally abusive towards me. Im afraid that he will ruin our wedding night! But due to a special occasion he should respect my wishes! WHAT DO U THINK?
2007-02-06 07:14:38 · 14 answers · asked by ARACELI T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think you should stop worrying about the reception and start worrying about being married to this guy.
2007-02-06 07:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this is how he reacts to drinking then he shouldn't drink at all. You should not accept his abusive behavior on any level at any time ever. It is abuse. Being that, even verbal, is abuse. If he is that way when he is drinking then the likely hood of him behaving like that when he's not drinking is pretty high. Do not enter into this Marriage lightly. Especially if he isn't willing to abstain from drinking. Special occasion or not he doesn't need to be drinking at all considering his abusive behavior when he consumes alcohol. I would seriously reconsider this decision to enter into Marriage with this man if he insist on continuing this destructive habit. I know that you've made plans and things are in the works. Deposits have probably been made. Believe me, being married to an abusive drunk isn't worth it. If he can't abstain for one occasion, then he has a problem and he needs help.
2007-02-06 07:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My question is why are you marrying a man who verbally abuses you? If he does it that night, he will do it EVERY night of your married life! I would rethink this wedding unless you plan to ban alcohol in your home and forbid him from leaving the house, he may get some. That is no way to live.
2007-02-09 15:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marrying this guy? My advice is that perhaps you should have seeked counselling before the marriage. But I guess now my answer is NO he shouldn't drink at the reception if he behaves badly. Don't start a new life off together being abused.
2007-02-06 07:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by Jason S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is abusive (even verbally) why are you marrying him. I know that you are going to say because you love him but you are not his mother and you can not tell him what to do and what not to do. Even if it is only when he drinks. That is no excuse. Someone there might just keep tempting him until he does take just " one drink" and then you know where that one will lead to. We can not answer this question for you. Follow your heart and good luck.
2007-02-06 07:29:29 · answer #5 · answered by melanie m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he becomes abusive to you after drinking and yet STILL WANTS TO DRINK, I think the problem is that you're marrying him in the first place. You can't "let" a grown man do anything. Either he'll drink or he won't, but no matter what you want to believe, it'll be his decision.
2007-02-06 07:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by Vix 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you going to marry him when he is verbally abusive?
I'd rather you wait until he seeks help for his abusiveness and show that he has changed and then get married in a few years instead of possibly marrying this jerk and he starts PHYSICALLY abusing you, then having it transfer to your children.
Please rethink this "marriage"
2007-02-06 08:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 12:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by missildine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a verbally and physically abusive drunk, I think you should have second thoughts about your wedding.
2007-02-06 07:19:47 · answer #9 · answered by Darius W 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Darlin' IF your soon to be gets abusive verbally or otherwise. Dump the SOB now!
2007-02-06 07:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by namsaev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋