Me and my boyfriend want to elope so we can be married but just keep it between us until we actually have a ceremony with our family and friends. has anyone else done this? we are in college (high school sweethearts) and on a budget. i just think it would be very romantic and intimate
2007-02-06 07:13:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I haven't eloped, but having a small ceremony where it's just you and your future husband can be very intimate and low stress. A lot of times weddings tend to focus on everything except the couple getting married! From caterers, to family with egos it can be very stressful indeed. Your marriage day should be about you and your future spouse. It gives you a chance to exchange vows and pledge your love without having and audience or worrying if the buffet is going to be set up on time.
Don't feel pressured to have another wedding for your family and friends to watch. Think about having a small, quiet party, like a wedding reception. If you're on a budget, make it a pot luck. That way, everyone feels like their doing something to help, and you don't have to worry about the high cost of feeding them all. You can have this reception days or weeks after your married, to give you and your spouse time to celebrate your new life together. Without having to endure the stress of a long wedding day. I've been to a lot of big weddings, they are long, stressful, and by the time their done the bride and groom seem to forget what the day was about in the first place.
2007-02-06 07:22:37 · answer #1 · answered by noncrazed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elopement would be romantic, but how long a time period are you talking about in reference to a traditional ceremony with friends/family? Unless it is immediate, or within a very short period of time, I would not keep it a "secret". Why not send out an Elopement/Marriage announcement post marked the day you elope? Then have a small get together or cookout to celebrate with friends/family?
2007-02-08 07:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by Lynny K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds desperate to me. I think you should just wait until you have the acutal ceremony so your friends and family can be there to witness the actual marriage! If you are doing this in secret its because you know there is something wrong with it and don't want to tell anyone. Either do it and tell your family, or don't do it and wait til the actual wedding.
2007-02-06 08:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem romantic but your family will be disappointed to miss out on seeing you get married (they'll feel sort of tricked)...and I think in the long run you would regret not having your family there at that special time.
2007-02-06 07:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by darligraphy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just wait? Is there some economic reason to get legally hitched. If not then just wait till you can afford it. If you two really are in love then you don't need a piece of paper to say that you are married. Your commitment and love should be all that you need.
2007-02-06 07:17:06 · answer #5 · answered by John K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if ya really love each other and really want to get married that bad then maybe ya should do it
2007-02-06 07:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh it is secret hun, I did it with my e-babe it was sweet
2007-02-06 07:16:09 · answer #7 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is better to marry than to burn...go for it!you have my blessing!
2007-02-06 07:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by Pooks 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds romantic... do it
2007-02-06 07:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by ﺸÐïåMóñdÐôññåﺸ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋