I might be pregnant, but we're not sure. My boyfriend has a little girl with a previous relationship. We're both scared that I might be pregnant, but I told him that I really wanted to be pregnant. He asked me why. I told him that I always wanted kids, and that I didn't think that I would be able to have them, and that I wanted to have kids with him, (something thats been discussed since day one). He asked me again and again and I told him because I always wanted kids and I didn't think I would have them, and that I always wondered when we would have kids. He said that my main reasons are the wrong reasons (always wanting them and thinking that I wouldn't be able to have them), but I told him that I wanted to have kids with him and always did and still do. He told me that he hopes my pregnancy test comes up negatvie. Is this because he's hurt about my answers that he took the wrong way or what? I need some input.
2007-02-06 07:08:47 · 4 answers · asked by Mom to a MicroPreemie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. he took it wrong.... to me, if i would hear those words, i would think almost the same about my girl, that she is taking it the wrong way around this issue....seeing it like this, thinking at it from a distance, however, i am sure that you really should tell him that you want his child because you love him and that you trust him and that you are really into your relationship and tell him these things without scaring him away (in an honest way).......
2. think it from his perspective, you know him better than anyone on the web ;) - than make your decision and move...
3. take in consideration if he wants or not to have kids (don't use any cliche when talking to him (don't go around it)- be straight and sincere, be patient). these are some general conversational skills that should allow avoid misunderstandings about the topic.... it's pretty touchy but don't be afraid of what you feel and want...
best of lucks.
2007-02-06 07:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by G01an 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a bit weird.... Um i don't think its your reasons that made him say that it seems to me that he either just doesn't want anymore kids right now or not at all or just not with you... My boyfriend doesn't want any kids but he was still happy when i got pregnant and hurt when i had a miscarriage. You really should sit down and talk with him. Good Luck
2007-02-06 07:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by reses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's not ready for another kid, maybe he thinks that you two are not financially able to support a kid, there could be tons of more practical reasons than just wanting one... hell, I would love to have a kid, but I'm still in college, my b/f can't afford to take care of a baby, I'm not mature enough to be responsible for another person's life.. lots of things to think about...
2007-02-06 07:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope it neg too. having children shold be a mutual thing. Even if you want his kids, he sound like he not ready for more. he may be fearfull that hell end up with 2 kids and 2 ex's. good luck eather way
btw
bing a single mom is hard
2007-02-06 07:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by manhattensally 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋