I have a 3 year old and he refuses to go potty in the toilet?

Question

He's actually 3 and 5 months, anyways he knows what the toilet is and what it's used for, he just refuses to use it.Anybody have any suggestions?He has 6 diapers left and I was thinking that I'm not going to buy anymore and see what happens.It takes me 35 minutes to drive to the closest town that sells diapers.I know I'm in for alot of crying when he runs out.Do you think this is a good way to try to get him out of diapers?Please help me.Thanks.

My son loves Spongebob, so we bought him some Spongebob underwear, he also has plain white ones.I 've put them on him(both kinds) and he screams and crys and takes them off and goes and gets me a diaper to put on him.

Answer 1

Don't stress him. My son took forever to potty train. He was closer to 4 1/2 before he was believe it or not. We tried everything (and I have successfully potty trained a child in the past). Boys can be harder. And if you add in a little stubborness it makes it a bigger battle. Buy some pullups and some big boy underwear. Tell him he can wear a diaper/pullup at bedtime and naptime, but during the day he needs to wear his big boy pants and use the potty. Take him to the potty ever 15-20 minutes and ask him if he has to go. Buy him his very favorite candy and tell him each time he uses the potty he can have a piece or candy/sticker (whatever floats his boat). Tell him if he uses the potty all week long then you will take him to do something special.

Good luck, I know it is hard and stressful, but he will learn!

Answer 2

Tell him what a big boy he is and buy him some underwear of his favorite cartoon...like Thomas the train or Spongebob! My son will be 4 in June and he has been using the potty to pee in for about a year...and just recently started using the toilet go potty in. I only put underwear on him during the day (you will have accidents...just expect it)...and pull ups at night. When he uses the potty, shower him with praise - and give him a sticker. It took my son over a year to go poop in the potty and a lot of cleaning dirty underwear! But he now goes consistently. Be patient - all kids learn at different paces. He'll be fine!

Answer 3

Ditch the diapers! Go to the shops and let him choose some underwear. He will have accidents but reassure him that this is ok. Star charts are really good, especially for that age. If you reward him for a sticker when he uses the potty and promise him a bigger present at the end of 3 or 4 days if he goes regularly, he will probably go for it and it should not take too long. Also, peer pressure is also really effective. Tell him his friends, siblings or cousins use the toilets and how grown up they are.
Good luck!

Answer 4

We had the same problem with my 3yr old as well, she just turned three so we actually trained her when she was 2. She just wouldn't go no matter what we tried even though she knew what the potty was for so we had to stop putting her in diapers as a last resort.

After about a day of telling her off each time she would pee in her clothes and floor things got a lot better because she felt bad about going in her clothes and floor so she would actually start to run to the bathroom when she felt the need to go, there were still some times when she didn't make it all the way there in time but after three days she was able to make it there all the time.

Answer 5

I have a 33 month old and he totally refused to go on the potty tried sp[onge bob stickers and undies which he loved still wouldn't go.. I bought him a seat for the big potty the other day since the day I got it he has been going 2-3 times a day on it and getting better each passing day ..he just didn't like the floor potty . I guess he wanted to go like a big boy on the big potty and he gets to where his big boy undies when he uses it and he loves that. he started wipeing ,flushing and washing up to all in a week and a half after 6-7 months on and off of trying.he also gets a sponge bob sticker to put up next to the toilet on the wall everytime he does what he is supposed to, so he can see and it gives him incentive to go. they are removeable . Good luck hope this helps

Answer 6

my son was potty trained by 2 1/2 and it was noe easy especially when thay are as small as my son was but if you take him to walmart have him pick out his own treats whether it be candt cookies or stickers... also have him pick out a potty movie or book and when you get home read it to him or let him watch it and everyday for the first 2 wks after showing him the book or movie (letting him know that what big boys do) ask him if he wants to try it on the potty just sit him up there and let him get used to it before forcing him to use it...after the first 2 wks try asking him every 10 mins if he wants to sit on the big boy potty in the mean time if he wants to wet himself let him be wet for a half hour to an hour if you change him as if he were wearing a diaper he will never know the diff. another thing that helped my son was i let him put his little portable potty anywhere he wanted! no one said this was easy i thought i would never get through it but hang in there he isnt goin to want to wear diapers forever!!

Answer 7

yes--it is a good idea--Don't be mean about--but you can say--oops--we're out of diapers--we'll have to wait till we get some more--And then just keep his potty--portable--everywhere he is--bring it into the tv room (if he watches tv)--into the kitchen etc...he will make some accidents but that's okay--I would save those six diapers for some time when you really have to go out--and just say NOW--well--there are no diapers left--and make sure you have a couple of days where you can be at home. you can say--oh--I found one if you need to go somewhere.. But don't go and buy a bunch more...

He may cry a bit but he will figure it out--You can hide those diapers really welland say--hey--mommy can't find them..well--let's do something else instead--and do something else fun--while keeping the potty close by...

Answer 8

Food rewards. I never wanted to do this myself, but my son (at the same age as yours) flat out refused to go potty.

I would put him on the pot and try to get his morning pee and he once held it for 45 MINUTES!!!

I spent my week of vacation with him out of diapers. Just took his diaper off in the morning and refused to put one back on. Let him go bare bum too (no pants). Then, if you do get him to go on the potty, give him a Smartie or a Jelley bean or two.

My son eventually learned to control himself so well that he would go pee 4 times in about 10 minutes and get his Smarties every time (that's how we knew it was time to stop the reward system).

When it's time for him to have a BM on the toilet, offer up something really good like a turtle or half a candy bar.

Answer 9

Have you offered to reward him with real big boy underwear like dad wears? or some other reward. Sometimes kids just think they won't be special anymore if they use the potty. Reassure him that it is an important part of growing up and you are so proud of him. Also if you have a training potty just teach him to empty it it will help him want to use the big one faster. Good Luck!

Answer 10

I am in the process of training my 2 1/2 year old boy. Just keep repeatedly putting underwear on. If he pees or poops, he is old enough to have him help clean up/do laundry. Dont give in. Dont put one on at night either, that will hinder him. And dont get mad, it seems to make it worse. Just tell him its how its going to be. If you think rewards would work, tell him he will get something for everytime he goes in potty. Good Luck!!!!!