Pro-lifers, how should women act in these situations?

Question

You can not tell me they should have kept their legs closed, or that they're stupid or just that they need to live with their mistake. You need to elaborate on your answers.

There are the reasons they are getting an abortion, how do you respond?

Too young.
Too poor.
Too many children already.
Was raped.
Is in an abusive relationship.
Contraceptive failure.
Has abusive parents.
Is childfree.
Doesn't want children right now.
Having a child will interfere with work, school, other responsibilities.
Fetus has health problems.
Women has health problems.
In a problematic relationship that isn't abusive.
Doesn't have a support network.

Edit:
You can't tell them they should keep their legs closed because they are already pregnant.

Doing that after the fact is asinine.

Answer 1

I believe that every child is a blessing from God. If the birthmother is not in a position to care for a child, then she can bless a couple that cannot conceive on their own. There are Pregnancy resource centers in most cities (even small ones) that will be able to help with maternity/baby clothes and necessities. Also if money is an issue there are always government programs to help. These pregnancy centers are also a great source of support for pregnant and new mothers.

Answer 2

It's unfortunate we live in a world where women want to throw their unborn babies away.

It does sound too simplistic to tell someone "well you should have kept your legs closed!". Maybe it would be better to say "didn't you know that's where babies come from?". I don't think there is any way to escape the causal relationship between a woman being sexually active and her becoming pregnant.

There was a time before reliable birth control, when if a married couple (or any couple) had sex, they were rolling the dice on whether or not the woman would get pregnant. Then the pill came along and the odds got better. How did having the odds on your side translate into some kind of constitutional right to have sex without responsibility?

Are there any adult women of sound mind that don't know that having sex may make them pregnant? Is there any foolproof birth control? Can you sue the company that made your pills, your condoms because you chose to have sex, then the laws of nature kicked in and now you have another human inside you that you must care for?

If a young girl becomes pregnant, whose fault is that? The law says she is too young to consent to sexual contact; that she is too young to be expected to understand the responsibilities that go along with getting pregnant and bearing a child. Did her parents fail her? Did a someone at church or school abuse a position of authority to molest her? Was it incest? Did she willfully defy everyone around her and have sex with her boyfriend? No matter what happened to this girl, it's still wrong to kill the baby she has inside her, no matter how convenient that may be. Two wrongs do not make a right.

Any woman whose heart beats feels desire and if she's not careful can get into trouble. Still today in some societies women have a lot of restrictions on them. They're expected not to drink excessively, to not frequent bars where men gather. They must guard their chastity until marriage and then stay married for life. You are probably thinking they live in the stone-age, and maybe they are. But the women there aren't throwing their babies away.

Life is not fair. We must earn our bread each day by the sweat of our brow. Some people work harder than others, some not at all. Some people are blessed with perfect health, some are not. A man can have sex with as many women as he wants, and never worry about getting pregnant (although a good man should take responsibility for his choices). The reverse isn't true, and it doesn't justify killing a baby.

Answer 3

I dont think ANY child is a mistake, and its a womens choice if she wants to lay down in bed w. a man and have sex and not use a condom.

ok for the first on,,
too young, yea there are a lot of young girls out there with babies i should know im one of them and i think you shouldnt kill a child just because you're young yourself. Its not right.

Too Poor:
There is always help for anyone trust me. Towns cities and states have help for a lot of people, thats not the right thing to do when you kill a baby because you are too poor.

Too many children already::
Children are a blessing! Point blank

In an abusive relationship:
Get out!! Leave them alone and be strong and let you're child grow up in a loving and caring relationship even if you have to do it on you're own.

having a child will interfere with work school, other responsibilities, well yea they do like i said i should know, but i mean you make the best of it

fetus has health problems.
children are a blessing from God no matter what.

I believe a women should give every child a chance and not just go off and kill them when they think it will be too hard or they just dont want children right now. If you dont want children right now then take steps in not getting pregnant take birth control and tell your husband or boyfriend or you're whatever to wear a condom and if he says it doesnt feel right leave.

i hope this is what you were asking

Answer 4

Why CAN'T we tell people to keep their legs closed? Honestly, if you're mature enough to have intercourse, you should be mature enough to handle the consequences. If you're not, keep your legs closed. To allow people to treat life so frivilously disgusts me. There are too many unwanted children in the world already to so carelessly become pregnant. Our country provides women with FREE birth control at clinics. There are so many birth control options available that there is simply NO EXCUSE for an unwanted pregnancy. I'm not a hardcore advocate against abortion. I see the need for a protective law. However, to exclude common sense from the equation is illogical.

Too young.--Keep your legs closed.
Too poor.--Get free condoms.
Too many children already.--BIRTH CONTROL
Was raped.--Obviously this one is a matter of personal choice. I would never tell a rape victim to keep the baby if she couldn't handle it.
Is in an abusive relationship.--Get out of the abusive relationship and USE BIRTH CONTROL in the meantime.
Contraceptive failure.--Double/triple up. The pill+a condom+withdrawal (honestly, if you're that against having a child that you would resort to abortion for contraceptive failure, be extra safe)
Has abusive parents.--Meaning the person was sexually abused and then became pregnant? Again, I would never tell that person what to choose for herself.
Is childfree.--Stay that way by keeping your legs closed our using BIRTH CONTROL
Doesn't want children right now.--Seriously, I'm repeating myself.
Having a child will interfere with work, school, other responsibilities.--Flip that around- work, school, and other responsibilities will interfere with raising the child. People make do. Don't get knocked up if you don't want a baby.
Fetus has health problems.--Obviously a call for personal choice.
Women has health problems.--Personal choice depending on the health problems
In a problematic relationship that isn't abusive.--End or fix the relationship. In the meantime, use lots of BIRTH CONTROL.
Doesn't have a support network.--Find a support network. People in the health field aren't going to turn their backs on a woman who is actively seeking support. Neither will the church.

Maybe it's because I CHOSE to wait until marriage to have sex. Maybe it's because I DIDN'T get to choose the miscarriage of my baby. I have a hard time feeling sorry for women who make such poor decisions for themselves that get them in the situation in the first place. If you'll notice, the times when I wouldn't dare tell a woman what to do are in the situations in which she wasn't given a choice (rape, defects, medical problems).

Answer 5

There are people in this world that would love to adopt a baby and would be glad to take the baby and raise it in a good home with two loving parents. Why kill an baby who did not ask to be conceived and is a true gift from God? I think the answer is simple but we make it difficult because we do have choices but the fact is that the girl has to live with the choice for the rest of their lives. The truth is that the baby can always have a home that is not the biological parents. I am glad that my mom did not abort me as her parents wanted her to. If it is for health problems I think that the answer is in God's hands. I do not think that even I can answer that for anyone.

Answer 6

Look there should one reason a woman should decide to have an abortion. I can totally understand if it were a rape case. That would be an awful reminder of a brutal attack, also if a child was seduce and got pregnant I would have to side with the abortion as well in that case too. But when adoption is the option.. what is the problem with that? What excuse could you possibly give.. I don't want children now.. so put them up for adoption, someone out is praying for that child. I am adopted and see it from the other side. My biological mother was a runaway drug addict with nothing to lose and she found it in her heart to take care of herself during the pregnancy and give me up for adoption. As soon as I was born.. her unrulely life continued. And she was in an abusive relationship (banditos). So she falls under alot of the reason you have there on the list.. poor, young, abusive relationship, did not want children right then, and she made the right choice. Abortion is not a birth control. There are to many ways to protect yourself from pregnancy. Condoms are free at the health unit, birth control pills, patches, shots, tubals, vasectomy, not having sex at all.. Find something better to do than kill an innocent child.. they did not ask to be here why should they have to pay for it. If you are a pro-choice then I believe that you should be very aware of all types of birth control and practice it ALL the time. I am sorry but this is a sensitive subject to me. Guess being adopted makes it harder for me to accept.

Answer 7

I respond by praying for the person who is so lost they feel that there is no other way out than to abort their own child. What else can I do?
If someone has made up her mind, then no pleading or reasoning is going to convince her otherwise. It's a sad truth that some women come up with any and every excuse to have an abortion, and they don't see the wonderful, childless parents out there who would give anything for a child.

Answer 8

To the first response that abortion is okay if medically advised. That just goes against everything you just said. If you interfere - you're going against God's wishes. If God put that baby in the woman, he meant to do it, right? So, he had his reasons, right? So, why would you save the woman's life and "murder" the baby? Your reasoning is bogus.

So is many pro-lifers view on abortion. Terrible, terrible things happen to people. In my local newspaper today there is a report of a 2 month old baby being punched in the stomach, his skull broken open on a counter, broken ribs, etc. The dad who did this went to jail for 9 months. Tell me God's reasoning.

Children are starving to death, being beaten to death, being tortured, shot on the streets, dealing drugs at 9 years old, then growing up to get pregnant at 11 and do the same things to their children.

Yes, bad things happen. Maybe God has a reason for these things, maybe he doesn't. Reason or not - if a 1 year old baby is being abused - you take that baby away. Why? Why would you take that baby away when God had a reason for the baby being born to his mother? God knows exactly what was in store for that child because he planned it, right? So, why would you change that child's life when God had it figured out?

You Pro-Lifers are so quick to judge others. I would rather see a cell destroyed then see it form into a living thing, turn into a child that is not loved/cared for. God may have his reasons for doing things. But, to be honest, I think he makes mistakes and that's when you have to do what you think is right.

If you want a baby born to a 12 year old crack addict who lives with an abusive alcoholic father who raped her - bring a life into that - now who's selfish??

Answer 9

My response is that if you're mature enough to make a baby you're mature enough to either raise it, or give it to someone who's not able to have one.
As far as fetus has health problems. That gets me really HOT because I do alot of work with Childrens Miracle Network and know so many children who are so awsome and make their families so happy. I myself have a son with birth defects that were not caught with prenatal testing, but it still wouldn't have changed my mind about wanting and loveing him. He's made my life so much richer and brought me closer to God.
Even if it seems hard to do, women need to quit having sex if they don't want a baby. It's just too selfish to stop a beating heart of a tiny helpless baby because of what's going on or isn't going on in a womans life.
Adoption is so much better!!

Answer 10

To all of those, it's simple... God has a purpose. If that child was not meant to be inside that woman, the baby would have never been conceived. There is a plan for that baby and the mother needs to support the fact that she is murdering another life if she aboards the baby. Abortion is murder. Women who get abortions (except in medical cases where it needs to happen), should have to deal with a punishment from the law just like murder. It's the same thing.