I started dating a guy immediately after he broke up with his girlfriend. That was my first mistake. After a few months he told me he wanted to continue seeing me, but did not want to be committed to me because he needed some time. In that time he slept with somebody else. Not cheating, obviously, but it still hurts nonetheless. When I found out I lost it, because during our "non committed" time I asked him if he was sleeping with somebody else, he said no. We had a huge fight and he apologized profusely, but now i'm not sure if I over reacted or if I didn't react enough. I've continued to speak with him, and he wants to "talk" seriously about trying again, but I just feel like were going to end up in the same place again. Can he honestly commit after putting me off for so long. I may have forgetten to mention the girl was an OLD ex, not the one he recently dumped, but someone he had history with.
2007-02-06 06:41:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess I should mention now he says he's ready to commit. No more of this "i need space" garbage.
2007-02-06 07:07:44 · update #1
i went through the same sort of thing with my Ex the best thing to do is cut off all contact you,ll get hurt if you dont trust me.
2007-02-06 06:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi wannabepg!When you acyually view this case there are some frustrations.Please why don't just give him space for some time meanwhile rest assure his heart not not to experience same incidence again.A person who is strong emotionally should not change.You two sit down and sort out everything.But i pray for you that everything will be fine.Take great care,are you convinced that the guy cannot break up with you and will the ex gf not say that you were after their relationship.
2007-02-06 06:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, people can change after 'screwing up' ... and they can actually 'be much better' than someone who 'behaved perfectly' from the very start. My question is not 'can he change' but "can you change enough to 'accept him after he screwed up'?" Being able to 'truly trust him' will take you some time, but you should 'try again' with him only if you think that you will 'be able to trust him' in the future, without 'always thinking about what he did when he screwed up' ... including 'talking about it' because that can 'turn him off' totally when you really are trying to get him to 'love you better.'
2007-02-06 07:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Harsh one really all depends on the individual,it sounds like he's not ready to settle down right now and wants to play the field alittle, he must obviously like you and by keeping in touch he still wants you in his life how ever in this time he wants to playaround a bit (which isn't fair on you!) and when he's ready im sure he'll be back!
I'd do the same thing get on with life and see how it goes.
2007-02-06 06:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the breakup confused him with his emotions...(as they do) and he turned to his old ex because it's someone he felt safe with during that "non committed" time. I can't honestly predict if he would do it again because I don't know what kind of character he is. If your gut instinct tells you to, talk it through with him, you may be really happy.
2007-02-06 06:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by thinkin2myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt go back there i dont think it will change, it didnt take him long did it to sleep with someone else and if he really liked u then he wouldnt have done it... he doesnt want to be commited to someone but he dont mind putting it about??? typical bloke
2007-02-06 06:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by Don 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people do but your guy seems to feel that your emotions don't come into play in this and he is definitely wrong the two of you need a deep face to face conversation and for your sake watch the eyes they never lie
2007-02-06 06:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you waste another minute with this guy ??? If he really wanted to be with you he wouldnt be out sleeping with someone else period !!!!!
2007-02-06 06:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by Stacy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it to. I would not give him a second chance if I were you. He had his chance and he blew it.
2007-02-06 06:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by ஐ♥Gin♥ஐ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a real asshole get rid
2007-02-06 07:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋