Ok, I have been going out with a girl for 6 months. Everything is almost perfect between us, there is only one small thing. She is really really emotional. I'm always afraid I am going to say something wrong and I might upset her. And when she does get upset, she gets really quiet with me. It is sometimes hard to get her to tell me what is wrong. After some time of not talking to me, she will usually tell me what is wrong, and it is usually something silly. I'm the type of guy where nothing really bothers me, maybe i am just not used to so much drama. I really want things to work out between us. What do you think I should do?
2007-02-06 06:27:00 · 22 answers · asked by Archless Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cannot change her. She will eventually make you crazy. Shes the kind of person who looks for things to be upset about. Find someone else
2007-02-06 06:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to stay around here get used to her being emotional. I think at some point in time she may start telling you how she feels instead of letting it build up, maybe you two haven't been around each other long enough for her to feel comfortable with you. Since nothing really bother you as you say, I don't see what the problem is unless you are afraid one day she will stop talking to you period. If that is the case, then I suggest you start asking her what is wrong and demand an answer.
2007-02-06 06:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a small thing - her failure to communicate is a BIG thing. I think that you should tell her up front that you realize that she is more sensitive than you are and that little things that bother her are not the same things that bother you. Tell her that she has to learn to speak up right away when she is bugged by something that you say or do.
If she just "gets really quiet" you have no idea what is up with her and she is punishing you in a really manipulative way by expecting you to be a mind reader.
You need to figure out if you want to spend your life with someone who is hyper-sensitive, manipulative, non-communicative, etc. Because believe me, it will only get worse if she does not learn to speak up.
2007-02-06 06:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by bugged to death 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm actually the same way. I usually don't tell my boyfriend what i'm so upset about because i realize that it may be a little silly but it still bothers me. All you need to do is just sit down and talk with her. Tell her that your scared to tell her things because it might make her upset. You want to share things with her without her judgement. And just ask her why she gets so upset and doesn't tell you why until later. You need to have open communication for things to work out bwtn you guys. Hope that helps a little!
2007-02-06 06:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by all4him 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so far from almost perfect. Things will not work out with you. Breakup and find a more stable girl who has control over her emotions- unless you want to live this way the rest of your life. You can't change her, and as long as you consider her "almost perfect" she won't change. You should have broken up 4 months ago
2007-02-06 06:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, she's just playing a game with you. She is testing you against other guys she have been with. EX: If you say, I'll oder your dinner.
and she responds
"Do you think I'm 2 dumb to order my own food"
that is only because in her past she has been with someone that tried to control her or made her feel dumb. By alerting you of this, she is trying to prevent you from gaining that quality before it goes too far.
I think you should just listen to her. Let her know that you are not like those other guys she has been with because I bet she has had many failed relationships.
When she gets emotional, hug her and kiss her and tell her that you love her. Eventually, things will level off once she gets a better idea of who you are and your attentions. Just stick with it!
Good Luck
2007-02-06 06:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by askandilltell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When its something silly, embrace her. Girls love to cuddle! so hold her and just cuddle with her It may not bother you and it may not be a big deal, but she just wants to know that you care. When she is quiet make an effort to try to figure out wats up. It wil mean so much to her, and she will become less emotional
2007-02-06 06:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by Leelah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to stop beating around the bush and come out and tell you when she is upset/sad or whatever. Tell her you care and don't want her to cry. Tell her you can't read her mind and really want to know why and when things bother her.
2007-02-06 06:33:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jules Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well actually all girls get kind of sad with absolutely no reason,it's just our nature to be like this.Boys,can't understand that feeling and usually can't figure out what's up with most girls.But if she's exaggerating then there's certainly something wrong.The main thing you can do is talk to her.
2007-02-06 06:35:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she's not upset - ask her about how she gets quiet with you. tell her it scares you or makes you sad, and she's likely to try to talk more openly about what's making her upset. she might not stop the drama, but you can at least address how she goes about dealing with you on it.
is she like this with everyone? if not - you might have larger problems on your hands.
2007-02-06 06:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋