Should I leave him?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 31/2 years we have a baby together, he spends most of his time at my house but he says he lives with his mother. So he doesn't pay any bills at my house. He does pick me up from work and drop me off and him and the baby goes to his mothers everyday until I get off of work. He wont work unless it's teaching tap dancing and he doesn't get much work where we live. I want him to get a real job so he can help more but he wont, I want to go out and do things but with my income only we cant do much. I'm tired of paying for everything what should I do?

Answer 1

You should leave him. He's a loser. Too bad you didn't realize that before you created a baby.

Answer 2

Have you ever heard the term "freeloader"?, I know what your comming from because I have delt with a man like that but a child was not involved..What you need to do is set your priorites straight and see what is best for you and your child. If you are paying for everything yourself, you need to ask this man, what are his plans for you and the child. He can't support you and a child if he's not having any income from no work besides random tap dancing teachings. You need to worry about what is best for you and your child. If he says he lives with his mother he should stay there but also be in the child's life. Unless he moves in with you and contributes to the household. Tell him how you feel..if you get a negitve feeling..kick him to the curb!

Answer 3

Well you should have thought about that before you had sex with him. No you have a baby, who needs a daddy.

I don't know what to tell you. the baby needs her Daddy. I would want thim to work more. But nothing will change, you are supporting him. If you decide to keep in around just deal with him acting immature, but marry him so that your child will have a stable home enviroment. If not, then split up and don't date again until the baby is 18. Focus your time on the baby, she/he is the most important person in your life right now, not your scum bag b/f.

Answer 4

Been there done that;its time 2 let him go. Its not going 2 be easy cos u have a baby with him plus u been with him so long. U don't know need a guy like that in ur life. He's not even a man. A real man take cares of his family no matter what it takes or how many jobs he needs 2 take.

Answer 5

He's a mama's boy and will continue to be like this until she makes him grow up and move out. He has a child now that needs his support and he still refuses to work unless it's teaching tap? Find someone more responsible.

Answer 6

Kick him to the curb. He's a momma's boy that won't grow up, as long as you let him do the things that he is currently doing. It might force him to grow up. But then again, it might not. Just remember the old saying, "If you love something, let it go, if it comes back to you, it is meant to be, it it doesn't, it was never really meant to be."

Answer 7

He needs to grow up and start taking some responsibilities! If he won't, dump him, sounds like you are alot more mature and deserve someone better! Good Luck!

Answer 8

Your the ONLY person that can only answer that question...I think....you deserve better than that..but try your very best to save the relationship..you have a kid!! In the first place you don't have to tell him what to do..he should know it by now..I wish you all the luck...

Answer 9

girl dump him if a man cant help you support your child and help with bills ext. hes not worth keeping around hes useing you to get what he wants get rid of him now

Answer 10

The dude is using you. Get yourself a hero and drop that zero.