Me and my bf have been together well over 18months and now Im at an age where ppl I know, including my close friends, are having sex after only being together for about 4-8 months. My bf is the sweetest guy you could ever meet! We have fun, I think he's sexy, funny, charming and cute, yet I don't want to sleep with him!? I'ts not that I'm scared, I have complete trust in him, I don't want to have sex, however now friends are doing it pressure is on. Is this abnormal, if I care about my bf so much why do I not want this?
2007-02-06 06:20:23 · 20 answers · asked by thinkin2myself 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No nothing is wrong. You are just making sure that is the right time. I am guessing you are a virgin. At any time though you should not have sex because your friends or boyfriend is putting pressure on you. If he cares about you he will be willing to wait and be patient with you. DO NOT LET YOUR FRIENDS influence you. This is your life not theirs. Just tell them if they ask you if you have had sex.Say you know I don't kiss and tell or tell them it is none of their business right now. Only do it when you are ready.
2007-02-06 06:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Vthokie25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being ridiculously stupid if you think you are being pressured or that the pressure is on to have sex just because the world around you is having sex. You're dude will understand that you don't want to have sex. You don't have to be pressured into having sex. Hell believe it or not, some people still have sex only till after they are married. seems to me like your close friends are sluts and easy and the guys they are with won't be with them for very long... is that what you want in a relationship??? Think about it.
2007-02-06 06:25:16 · answer #2 · answered by melloncollieromance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE BEING SMART!!!
seriously, you are making the right decision no matter what your friends are doing. you should have sex when you feel utterly and completely ready for both the consequences that come with sex. once you have sex with your BF it will be a completely different ball game, your heart will take a lot longer to heal if the two of you happen to break up...
2007-02-06 06:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by **Lil QT** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say, huni, is if you don't want to do it, don't. Only do it when you are ready. I was once feeling how you are and I did it. I regret it now though, because I wasn't ready to go that far. Not everything in a relationship is about sex and the fact that you are not doing it, shows how strong you are as a couple!!
2007-02-06 06:26:30 · answer #4 · answered by Proud mama UK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT until you are totally ready girl no matter how ever long that it takes. He must really like and love you if he has stayed with you for so long so he probably isnt going anywhere. Dont give in to peer pressure. It's hard but dont base what you do in life comparing to what others do. Do what YOU think is right to do.
2007-02-06 06:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi thinking2m....! You must realize that you have a mature mind.What you are doing is extra smart.Sex and relationship are two different entities.The moment you will offer your 'body' to him then that will be the beginning of hatred and finally you will appear to him as a sexual object.If you really care about him then follow your decision but not friend's.Myself i have stayed for five years and i haven't tried indulging in sex so please just maintain the love by doing the right thing.
2007-02-06 07:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are paying attention to good values your parents taught you. Proves you are not a follower and do things just because others are doing it. Having sexual relations also can lead to risks of pregnancy which can change your life forever. You do what you feel is right for you and do not let others tell you what you can do with your own body. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-06 06:38:09 · answer #7 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not abnormal. i am at that age as well where every1 is having sex around me, But i dont want to, i just dont have the that urge and thats completely normal, The fact that you have a b/f proves that you are not a lesbien, SO dont worry about it
2007-02-06 06:28:38 · answer #8 · answered by Leelah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like a deep friendship to me. Do you fantasize about men on the TV and have a normal sex drive? If you do then your bloke just dosen't push those buttons with you.
2007-02-06 06:31:50 · answer #9 · answered by Michele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have high morals, standards, self respect and are not ready for sex. Your friends are wrong for pushing you to do something you do not want to do and are not ready to do! Stay the course!
2007-02-06 06:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by Steven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋