we are two sisters. I am 5 years younger to my sister. She has a very magnetic personality. everyone likes her a lot. I like her a lot too. i really do admire her. But it totally puts me off when she constantly keeps telling me what to do even in front of everyone. It is very humiliating. i have told her repeatedly that i don't like that, but she still does it and says it is for my own good. I am very upset because of this.I feel that i cannot do or say anything properly. i don't know what to do. i am currently living with another family who know her more than they know me and she lives with us as well. so i can't talk about it with anyone. my parents live far away and i don't want to upset them. I am feeling very depressed and worthless. i feel very inferior when she is around and hate myself all the time.please help me
2007-02-06 06:13:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
You probably do not have the courage but you should tell her that she is being very rude to you--and she is. She may be great but this is also being rude. If you could just leave the room or walk away from her when this happens--if it is around others. If she wants to say these things, say them in private. Personally, I think you should consult your mother. She may be far away but that is what mothers are for. Ask her to tell your sister to back off. Although she is your sister--she is not your mother/guardian/boss/councelor/instructor and anything else I can think of--lol
Keep the chin up and good luck. (Just smack her--no--not really)
2007-02-06 08:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need to branch out a bit and make some friends of your own, independent of your sister. Fact is, she will always be your big sis, and think of you as her little sis. If you form your own group of friends who know you for the great person who you are, you can eventually (after a long while) introduce your sister to your new friends. She may be really surprised to see the person you really are. She may actually gain some much-needed respect for you when she sees how others interact with you when they haven't been tainted by her disparaging comments.
The way to make these friends may be to join a few groups centered around your activities of interest. If you like to cook, take a cooking class. You like to dance, take a dance class. Don't be hesitant to talk to people and find common interests. You deserve some time in the sun to shine.
Best of luck!
2007-02-06 06:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by artemisaodc1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think maybe your sister feels like she needs to mother you since your family is far away. My sister is 5 yrs younger than me and I mother her all the time telling her what to do and being strict with her she hates it and sometimes says I embarass her... I think you should go to your sister and tell her honestly that how she is doing this makes you feel stupid or worthless that you understand she wants whats best for you but there has to be another way for her to handle it. If you talk to her with your heart I dont see how she can ignore it.. I know when my lil sis talks to me like that I have to listen.
2007-02-06 06:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Halawa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a great person! Don't ever think that you aren't! I'm sure there are things that you can do that she can't. You know that she loves you. When you get older you might not get to see her as much so enjoy the moments you have now. Unity is the Key.
2007-02-06 06:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by *?* Q&A Girl *?* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone about this. How about a minister, a school counselor, your doctor.
Don't leave it all bottled up. It's not fair to your mental health.
Good luck, honey!
2007-02-06 06:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do what she tells you just ignore her or move in with your parents
2007-02-06 06:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by sexyislandgyal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋