im pregnant and my boyfriend hits me i love him with all my heart but he has split personalitys and doesnt know what he is doing. it was happening a lot then it stopped but now it is coming back and i fear for my babys life but i love my boyfriend to death and he refuses to take medication for his problem. i want to leave him cause it is unfair that i have to go through this but i want to stick by him. what should i do?
2007-02-06 06:09:27 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I was in highschool I knew this girl. She was not real hot but I REALLY liked her allot and would have given Anything to date her. The problem was she had this redneck boyfriend who she said she was "in love" with. This ****** would slap her around, screw other girls and laugh in her face when she found out, but she Refused to leave him. She would follow him around the school like a puppy dog begging for his attention. I ended up getting hurt too because I finally got the guts to tell her how I felt about her, how her j-erkoff boyfriend didn't deserve a girl like her and that I knew how to treat a woman with kindness, dignity, respect and love. She told me to leave her alone and I was crushed.
That experience Permanently changed My view of women in violent relationships. As far as I'm concerned, if my story sounds like Your relationship and you are Too F-ing STUPID to leave him, then you DESERVE Anything and Everything that happens to you. That includes losing your pathetic life!
What makes Your situation worse is you're carrying an unborn Child inside of you. Your First duty is to PROTECT THAT CHILD!
If by Not leaving your jerkoff boyfriend, you allow that child to be injured or killed the you're a Bigger scumbag than he is!
The BIGGEST LIE that a woman will EVER tell Herself: "I can Change him! My love can Change him!" You need to WAKE The-F UP!
2007-02-08 07:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by thart090 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him NOW!
There is no excuse for this behavior. NONE AT ALL. Split personality is, to be honest, B.S. The clinical definition is schitzophrenia, and can involve hallucinations, unusual behavior, odd speech patterns, the lack of the ability to make logical decisions, and delusions. Nothing about beating you. That is an excuse TO beat you and blame it on something else. Is he on medication now? If not, he's probably just a psychotic who enjoys beating and controlling you. He could be manic-depressive, but in any case there is no excuse to hit and abuse you.
You should not stay with him. You should not have to go through with this. You want to leave him? Go. Go now. Your safety comes long before your feelings. If you fear for your life, or for your unborn baby, RUN! Pack a bag if you can, or walk out the door if you can't do that. Just DO NOT STAY.
2007-02-06 06:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard because you love him but you must also love your baby and your putting it at risk every second that your with him if he refuses to take medication which by the way it totally inexcusable and so idiot ice then my advise would be to leave him as soon as you can and try to move far away because if your close to him and he's abusive he could hurt you or your child. Double personalities are no excuse for being abusive and even if you do love him this means you kinda only love one of his personality a and the other hits you so the only way to solve this is either for him to take medication or for you to leave and never look back. For yours and your babies sake I hope that you leave him because if that's one of his personalities it will never stop and is that really the life you want especially with a child being born into that family
2016-07-07 08:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by aimee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about your baby I am pregnant too and if my fiancee hits me then we would have a lot of problems. I would think about my child growing up in this relationship that is abusive and unstable. I know that you love him to death especially knowing that you are carrying his child but you have to leave unless he medicates himself if not then you know what you have to do.
What if you leave him stable one day just to probably go to Walmart or something and when you come back your baby is dead by his hands. Try to get him treated but in your state you should be getting out of this relationship as soon as you can if he doesn't and insists to persist.
2007-02-06 06:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Truth is ppl on here can tell you to leave and you dont need him ect...but you are not going to leave till you are good and ready or worse..dead. think about this your child is going to be brought into a world seeing this being done...and im almost sure that in due time the bf/baby daddy will hit your child as well...so would you let a stranger hit your child? no...so why would you put your child at risk to get hit. also when you have your child and if this is still going on (im sure it will be) there is a good chance you will get your child taken away due to you putting the baby in danger.
2007-02-06 06:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by Boggen1210 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One question, Why the hell are you sticking with this guy? you shouldnt put yourself through this, its not right. My mom was with my real dad and he used to beat her up so bad, both her eyes were swollen shut! You need to leave him before it gets any worst. If you really love your daughter/son then you would get out before he start hitting your baby, and doing more harm. If you get out to late then you are going to keep blaming yourself for what he has done. Or is you never get out its just going to keep happening and happening over and over again, then you will never be able to get out. Or if you really love him and you want him to get better and you want him to take pills but he wont, just mix it in his drink when he is eating.
2007-02-06 06:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by smith_kallissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get your priorities straight. That innocent child is number one, not you and not him. You say you want to stand by him there is nothing to stand by when a person doesnt want to get help. You want to stand by and watch him beat you and your child cause dont think for one second that he wont hit that child to. If he loved you he would get help. I guess the question is who do you love more your abusive overbearing boyfriend or your unborn child whom may never be born if you stay in this situation.
2007-02-06 06:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
have you tired to talk to him about this problem maybe with others who you also love and care for around to help protect your unborn baby and yourself cause he really has a problem and it really needs to be took-en care of. Now if it was me I would leave in a heart beat cause it makes no sense to be beaten on by someone you know and love...so both of you get help and stay focus on your baby not him.
2007-02-06 06:17:58 · answer #8 · answered by CThomas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he blames the hitting on you too and it's all your fault. Sound familiar? Have him put in jail and see how he likes that. No guy should ever hit a girl. That is, unless she is hitting him first. It goes both ways. no one should hit each other. that is not love. Quit thinking about the sex like you girls always do and think about how bad he treats you. He doesnt love you girl or he wouldnt be disrespecting you like that. Call the cops, call your brother, call your dad, call somebody and have HIS a s s hit and see how he likes it.
2007-02-06 06:15:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't stick by him, that would be stupid. If he hits you, especially while you're pregnant, I don't care if he has a mental problem or not, you don't need to be with him... he'll never stop doing it and he might even start hitting your kid. Just leave him now before it gets worse and you really get hurt.
2007-02-06 06:13:15 · answer #10 · answered by F.J. 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋