how do you leave go of a man who is no good for you emotionally....who broke up with you 4 months ago got engaged over xmas and now tells you that they want you back...even though you were with them off and on for almost 10 years and he never once talked of marriage oh and we have a child together.....that when we are apart he pays no attention to......
2007-02-06 06:06:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you run...forest... run....
if he was no good before he will be no good now. You need to move on and find someone that will love you and respect you like you deserve...
if you get back with him it will be good for a while and then he will be back to his old habits.
2007-02-06 06:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Lovely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hold on to him because of your child..u don't want your child to loose a fathers love,touch,comfort.However if u want to leave him..u should let him know he has to come and visit and spend time with the child often.And u leave in away that u guys can still talk to each other..cuz u don't want when every time he comes by..u change to hurricane..feeling mad at him...and u're just hurting yourself..when u do so.And if your child have understanding already..make sure u explain to your child why r u moving.Cuz u won't want that to affect your child..wondering whats going on...that's what most parents fail to realize,they need to talk to their child,and not do things like a mad rooster..loosing the relationship between the child...well hope that helps..chow.
2007-02-06 06:22:40 · answer #2 · answered by Annabella 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get counceling for you and suggest it for him too.. if he dont want too, let him go completely. Don't ever be with someone if your excuse is going to be the kids..
I've done it , and it doesnt work.. it doesnt make things any better, and the kids are the ones that suffer.
After i realized that i could live a happy life without my ex, and my kids were going to be alright.. it all made sense.. and My kids and i are happier now. No fighting, no grudges.. as for me, if my ex wants to see or talk to the kids, it's fine whenever he wants, and as much as he wants. I know that the kids will appreciate it from me, and if he doesnt call or show up, it's not on me anymore.. and as the kids have grown, they know what is going on, and who did what.. and they know i love them unconditionally, and have been there.. for everything.. my ex has not. my kids are now 17 and 12. Time is on your side girl.. dont sweat it! :)
2007-02-06 06:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by MOON13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a loser. He doesnt even see the kid. After 10 years he cant committ to you and marry you. He gets with a girl and when they broke up probably NOW he wants you back. He's just using you and i think you can do ALOT better girl. DONT take him back no matter what !!
2007-02-06 06:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No Good! No Good! You are the stronger one of the two, after all you are raising your child - on your own. You need to tell him grow up and be a man, if not for me, do it for OUR child. I think you should find another love, their out there one who will respect you & your child. Good luck!
2007-02-06 06:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by E E 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let him go!! just stop spending time with him. he is no good for you or the child. stop letting him come over , don't answer phone to him, just stay away from him. you should probably consider getting some counseling as well to help you sort out all your feelings and to learn to get over him. he is a major red flag and you don't want to keep waving it!
2007-02-06 06:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only let him in your life for the child's sake. Remind him that if you two didn't have a child, he'd be out of your life. He's wishy-washy. What's to say he won't do that to your child too? I suggest considering moving.
2007-02-06 06:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the loser.He obviously has no intentions of commiting to you or anyone else for that matter.You should consider counseling.And stop allowing people to play games with you!Do you want your daughter to learn that this kind of thing is o.k.?
2007-02-06 06:13:58 · answer #8 · answered by rae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just move on with your life its going to be better for you and your child!
2007-02-06 06:10:15 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you decide you've had enough and deserve better, you realize you have let go. When you stop living in some fantasy world of what could have and should have been, you've let go.
2007-02-06 06:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋