My fiance and I have been living together for 2 years. So needless to say, we have everything we need around the house. How can we let our guests know (in the shower invitations, etc. where you'd normally put where the couple is registered) that we'd prefer gift cards or cash? I can't think of a way that doesn't sound tacky.
2007-02-06 05:58:23 · 14 answers · asked by chzcakebaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Ok, first of all, those of you who think I'm being "tacky" and "ungrateful" are completely wrong. I'm not asking for gifts, it's just that I know that gifts generally go along w/ a wedding. So get off of your high horses.We will be grateful for anything we receive, but we'd prefer it was something particularly useful to us. I can't believe how judgemental you people are. Secondly, we weren't going to ASK for gift cards or cash, just mention that they were preferred. Saying that I'm expecting money or gift cards is like saying that a couple who's registered at Macy's HAS to have something from there. For those of you who offered suggestions without insulting my integrity, I thank you. The rest of you (especially you who said I was "shacking up", I'm not, we are legally married and just now having a ceremony so shut it) can take your attitude somewhere else.
2007-02-06 15:00:49 · update #1
Try this website...
www.verseit.com, it helps you word EVERYTHING!
and you can also give the shower a name..Dont call it a wedding shower or anything like that because most likely you will get things for the house.
Ex: If you are going on a honeymoon. Do a honeymoon shower and if its a Carribean Honeymoon than make the theme to be a carribean setting. This is what my fiance and i are doing and this way they either contribute to the honeymoon (hopefully monetary) or they will bring something that we can use towards the honeymoon. Good luck!
2007-02-06 06:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's because there isn't a way that doesn't sound tacky; the idea is bad etiquette and selfish. It is not your guests' "fault" that you have been shacking up and have all the household things you need.
Guests are not obligated to bring a gift for a wedding, however most do - because they want to give something to help start the new couple out. So either be gracious and accept the gifts you do get, or just say simple "no gifts". Don't ask for money or gift cards, or honeymoon costs, or the cost of renovations, or a nursery -- all things similar brides-to-be like you have asked here about previously.
2007-02-06 07:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe for one moment that you have everything you need for your home. I've been married 5 years and still have empty cabinets in my home. I am sure you can find new entertainment system, towels, knives, bedding, tools, china something to register for. Something you want to upgrade to or want. People are not obligated to give you a gift so you should gracefully accept whatever gift that is given regardless if you need it or not. You can always return things for store credit or most places give gift cards. Its tacky to ask for cash. You then should charge people to attend if you need the money so badly.
2007-02-06 06:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't put anything in the invitation at all. Just let your friends/family know that a gift card to xxx (be specific) would be great or a gift of money.
Its against etiquette and all tact to mention gifts. Your guests don't have to give you a gift if they don't want to. The purpose of the day is to share in the joy of your wedding.
2007-02-06 09:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not put ANYthing about gifts in the invitation. Asking for gifts in any form in the invitation is incredibly tacky. If you must, try to spread it through word of mouth -- you'd be surprised how quickly word gets around when you tell the right people.
2007-02-06 06:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by wnk 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I were discussing this last night and decided that letting people know that gift cards are what's wanted is the best idea. If that's what you need. Remember, you can buy non store cards now, so it's basically cash, but prettier :)
2007-02-06 06:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people ask where you are registered..say the name of the store you want gift cards for. If you get things...you could always return them. Or on the register list..just request gift cards. Good luck and congrats.
2007-02-06 06:15:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can register for gift cards at the place your registering. then go aherad and put where there registed in the invites and people will se you wants gift cards. also check and make sure you dont need anything in your home updates, new towels nicer sheets ect. so you will have a few others to choose from as well.
2007-02-06 06:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask for gift certificates from you guests favourite stores! don't say anything about cash
2007-02-06 06:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by Ŗεŋεε 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is incredibly rude to ask for CASH. You can always use new sheets and towels, curtains throw pillows. Other items that you would never consider buying for yourself
2007-02-06 07:33:42 · answer #10 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋