How do i find out how he feels about me without scaring him off?

Question

I met this guy nearly 7 months ago, we started off as friends and then we ended up having a a one night stand, which then turned into an every weekend stand. He recently told me that he really liked me but the timing was wrong. I was drunk and laughed in his face, in the morning i pretended to not remember our conversation. I didnt want to hurt his feelings! Now ive realised that he is the best thing i have had in a while and he makes feel really special! The problem is i dont know how he feels now, how do i get onto the topic and find out how he feels about me. Do you think i have ruined my chances?

Answer 1

based on your saying how he makes you feel I'm thinking that you still have at least some of your 'weekend stands'.

my first caution would be that you may be falling for a man who will not return your love.....because..... possibly married ? not saying he is... just as a posibility.

If the 'timing' was not right and all you have are these weekends & seven months without any further developments..... I would say from a man's perspective you may be his outlet for a good time and so that energy of him having so much fun is put back into you.

okydoky..... what to do about it.

for yourself you need to know exactly where you stand. yes it might hurt at first but in the long run you'll save yourself a larger amount of pain if it goes for 7 more months and you learn that he's been a closet homosexual and now has decided to be open and get a boyfriend .... or whatever, just an example.

for regular guys ( & i might add .... after 7 months there is no issue of 'scaring off') it is a bonus to the relationship if you are direct about the issue.

One suggestion I've given other girls in this forum is to print off all the answers they get. Cook him a nice dinner at your place & say "________, i wanted some ideas about what your feelings for me might be, but I did not want to scare you off. I like you very much and my hope is that our relationship can __________. Some of these are funny, some serious, some stupid. If you want to look at 'em and laugh that might be fun for us. ___________ when your done, I would like us to have a serious and honest conversation about where we would like this relationship to go."

then after you two talk you can make a decision on how you want to proceed.

Answer 2

I don't think you have ruined you're chances. He probably does feel rejected...and because you were drunk it will be worse on him. (Sometimes drink is the "truth drug") Now that you have realised you like him and he makes you feel special dont lose him. If he really likes you, then tell him you have been thinking about him or something and that you really like him. (By saying this he will be really happy AND you don't have to say you remember the conversation where you laughed in his face). Hope I helped, good luck.

Answer 3

if i was u i would speak to him face to face coz obviously u have fallen for him, dont put urself through this if he doesnt feel the same then why waste ur time on him? so the only way u can tell how he really feels about u is to ask him... dont be a door mat and dont let him use u.. and how can the timing be wrong,ask him why its wrong,whats scaring him away from true commitment? he is sleeping with u so its gotta mean something.. just ask him good luck

Answer 4

Hi, I'd want to find out why the timing is wrong before jumping in with both feet and ruining things permanatly.
If he really likes you, he should have no trouble telling you what's holding him back.
Whatever you do, try not to be pushy, in my experience it always makes things worse.
Good luck, I really hope things work out for you
Morsel

Answer 5

both get drunk again you will find it easier to talk and he will prob tell the truth or woteva he thinks at the time. thats wot i would do!
good luck with it all

Answer 6

you might have already...but the only way to tell is be upfront with him and tell him how you feel

Answer 7

what ever u feel tell him..