okay so I went out with this guy for like 5 and a half months. [may-oct] and ummm yeah by oct we became sexually active, but only 3 times. but still.. and then for the past few months we've said some of the meanest things to each other like I hated him SO MUCH for breaking my heart [yeah I know that sounds lame but its true] and so then we started seeing other people and then aslt week [tues, wed, and thurs] I hung out with hima nd he fingered me and I gave him a hj and I knew he liked some girl from another town, who is just klasdjfh. and then he told me that he just wanted to be friends with us both but last ngiht he told me that he likes her and that he never told her that he doesnt want a relationship. and now I dont know if I should still be friends with him or what I saw him in the hall today and he stopped in front of me and I just like plowed over him ahha. jokingly but he gave me a dirty look. ugh I dont know what to do. someone please give me advice. I know this was long
2007-02-06 05:53:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh and I'm 16 and hes 15. and no I never had sex before him. I guess thats why I still talk to him.
2007-02-06 05:56:20 · update #1
THAT IS PROBABLY WHY YOU STILL TALK TO HIM. WHETHER YOU WANT TO OR NOT YOU WILL NEVER FORGET YOUR FIRST! SERIOUSLY. I CAN'T AND I'VE TRIED....BELIEVE ME! BUT ANYWAY HE OBVIOUSLY HAS MOVED ON FROM YOU BUT JUST AS ANY OTHER YOUNG LITTLE BOY, WHEN OPPORTUNITY KNOCKS, THEY ANSWER. BY CONTINUING TO ENGAGE IN CONVERSATIONS AND HANGIN OUT WITH HIM YOU ARE STRINGING YOURSELF ALONG. FIRST THINGS FIRST, CUT OFF ANY ATTACHMENTS. LET HIM GO HIS WAY AND YOU GO YOURS. YOU'LL NEVER FORGET HIM AND HE WILL NEVER FORGET YOU. NO MATTER WHAT HE SAYS! LIFE IS FULL OF SOOOO MUCH OPPORTUNITY FOR YOU! DON'T SELL YOURSELF SHORT. YOU DON'T SEEM COMPLETELY HEART BROKEN SO THAT IS AN ADVANTAGE! YOU CAN MOVE ON A LITTLE EASIER THAN OTHER GIRLS. CONSIDER YOURSELF LUCKY!!!! DON'T ALLOW YOURSELF TO SLEEP WITH ANYONE JUST CUZ IT SEEMS RIGHT THEN. LATER IT MAY NOT STILL SEEM OK. I WOULD KEEP THINGS VERY SIMPLE WITH HIM AND YOU BOTH WILL SLOWLY DRIFT FROM ONE ANOTHER. DON'T BE A SNOT BUT DON'T GO OUT OF YOUR WAY TO SAY HI EITHER. SOON ENOUGH YOU WILL FIND SOMETHING NEW THAT WILL INTEREST YOU. MAYBE EVEN MORE THAN HE DID!!!! YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT IS OUT THERE TILL YOU START LOOKING. GOOD LUCK, KEEP YOUR HEAD UP, AND ALWAYS REMEMBER WHEN YOU LOOK AT YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR THAT YOU LOVE AND RESPECT THE WOMAN YOU ARE TURNING INTO. IF YOU VIEW YOURSELF LIKE THAT THEN SO WON'T OTHERS!! WHAT DOESN'T BREAK US MAKES US STRONGER!!!!!
2007-02-06 06:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by DEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through something similar when I was about 16. I lost my virginity to some guy who was an *** in the ling run. I think we need a little of that in our lives to make us stronger;) I would stay away from him for at least a little bit. It sounds like it is easy for you to fall into his trap and do things with him that you are not really ready for. I would give it a few months at least and they maybe JUST be his friend but remember there are always nice people out there to be friends with. Dont just be friends with people to have friends...make sure they are worthy of yourfriendship!
2007-02-06 05:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely Lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should just try and ignore him if you can. i know it may be hard to like give up your first love but if hes acting like this, sometimes acting like he likes you and sometomes acting like he doesn't even know you, this is someone you probably shouldn't associate much with. and although it seems like a lot of time to you, 5 months is really not that much time to get to know one another, even if you may feel differently, but you may not have been able to see the side of him that you are able to see now that you aren't with him anymore. In my opinion, even though it may be difficult and hard, i think that you should pretty much let him go and always remember that there are plenty of other fish in the sea. good luck with everything and your future relationships!
2007-02-06 06:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by rebekah u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. You should of never had sex with him or anyone at that age. It only screws up your mind. A boy at that age will never be serious.
2007-02-06 05:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by Flower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the prob with teens. They dont realize when it's over. He just came back for a booty call. He has another gf !! Hint Hint !!
2007-02-06 05:58:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he broke your heart why associate yourself with him. well i dont know the whole story but that sounds like he cheated on u so im assuming that. if its just a break up then just be friends, its stupid to stop all contact just because you broke up, sounds childish.
2007-02-06 05:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, you're way better than that. And stop letting him use you unless you're in a relationship. That makes you easy.
2007-02-06 06:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll tell ya right now, teen boys are not interested in relationships. all they want is to see how far they can get with a girl.
2007-02-06 05:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by peachie_pussie23 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you just tell him to sod off and move on to another guy! lol [[ no offence ]]
2007-02-06 05:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by Sofia_x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i understand what you wrote, he is probably using you,.. so deal with it.
2007-02-06 05:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by a Friend 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋