so where to start.. i have been with this girl for about 19 months and we broke up for one of those months for not really the best reasons except i seemed obsessive , she said she didnt think she loved me anymore and stuff like that.. she basically was bored of me lol. anywho... during that month she ended up almost hooking up with a guy like almost immediatley after we broke up and the guy was her cousins boyfriend! yeah pretty messed up right.. i found out about that the hard way and it just created more tension between us and agruments and etc. she also is extremely bipolar and overdramatic and freaked out at the fact that every now and then i would text her or call her during the month .. it got to the point she got her parents involved and said they would get a restraining order on me! i couldnt help but laugh at the immaturity of this household, it was ridiculous i mean who in there right mind is just gonna throw everything away and just completley stop talking to a girl you have
2007-02-06 05:41:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
been with for 19 months right? well anyway during the end of the month she started talking to me again... thats where the bipolar comes in i was her enemy now im not? ahha well she ends up telling me she kissed 5 guys and gave a guy a *******! wow ! really over the top and shocking to me i was speachless and very upset because i only kissed two girls but it was only because it was new years you know. so basically we started hanging out again and stuff and she ended up asking me out.. i said yes and its been about 3 weeks sense then and i still have those horrrible thoughts in my head all the time of what she has done and it makes me cringe at wanting to see her or talk to her.. my friend has been talking to her alot and he said shes planning to spill her feelings to me valentines and say she loves me.. but i dont think i want to say it back you know.. no easy access to my heart this time.. but anyway its just hard and im not sure which way to turn
2007-02-06 05:44:39 · update #1
no she just met the cousins boyfriend after we broke up and ended up liking him but nothing happened between them it just caused alot of drama between her and the cousin and im on the backburner watching it occur you know.. but i mean does she really love me dude i mean damn it seemed so easy for her to do that stuff...
2007-02-06 05:49:20 · update #2
i think some of you are misreading it ahah.. we are back together she asked me out and i said yes im just wondering if i should keep going through with this second chance.. i mean its been three weeks and its been amazing but.. i got those thoguhts that rip me apart ....
2007-02-06 05:52:06 · update #3
well the only reason i can think of why i want to be with her is.. because i love her man..alot. i have a big heart and im struggling through hardtimes just because of my beliefs that true love does overcome any misfortunes ... and for some reason the fact that she is kinda young (17) and im 19 she needed to probably do those stupid expiermental things to really realize what she is missing and that she is indeed in love with me... but even if she does say it to me.. im not gonna say it back i need alot of proof and proving to me that she truely is here for good
2007-02-06 05:55:55 · update #4
what baffels me the most is how the tabels have turned from me being all emotionally heart broken to her realizing and grieving without me and crawling back to me practically begging for forgiveness... she really is trying hard i can truely tell she is. its just is it really worth it you know.. and will she pull this all over again or will she actually be in love with me... instead of just saying it just because.i guess im just kinda scared you could say.
2007-02-06 06:01:54 · update #5
i see where you all are coming from... im definatley playing the hardass this time and im definatley the dominant one this time around.. because i guess i was way to caring and thoughful before . im not letting her take my heart without a fight she has to earn it big time. and i have been letting her talk to me.. i never try to contact her.. if she wants to see me she will tell me right. this is me proving myself that she really does want this it sounds so mean to do but i have to. shes playing my games now! haha no more of hers.
2007-02-06 06:06:05 · update #6
Dude man, forget about her,.. dont waist your time with her,.. seriously, I knew a girl like that, you need to cut the link otherwise if shes crazy enough she try to harm you and your new girlfriend. Stop talking to her, block your number, msn,.. everything...
2007-02-06 05:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by a Friend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well baby I think that this one you not only should follow your heart. Ask yourself if you feel the confidence to go back with this girl and love her again or have a totally honest and commit ed relationship filled with trust? She did it once and broke your heart would it happen again? Would she just get tired of me again? Which is bull she wanted to get with the other guy and left you if you didn't know this well I'm telling you.
The more I think about it is the more I want to tell you to leave her alone because she did what she did that pissed you off and you don't even want to really see her. There is no future there if that is the way that you feel. Don't stay with someone because you have a lot of years in a relationship with someone it could have been seven years or not but if you love her and willing to risk your heart again then go right ahead we live for risks right and believe it or not we risk it just my getting out of bed. If you really want to do this then go right ahead. I wouldd hold back on it though and see what would be the outcome if you ask her to take it slow and be friends for the while. Don't make Valentines day make you go crazy.
2007-02-06 06:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not finish your story but I got your drift. My friend at work is Bipolar so I know you are going on a roller coaster ride with her. Sometimes you wonder what or who you are talking to when you meet them day to day. You won't win with the parents.
Try to stay out of their way. Most parents are only looking after the interest of their children no matter how stupid they may look to you. So the law is on their side and you could end up with some legal problems.. I have to get an misdemeanor taken off my record because of some domestic problem many years ago.
This can be ex sponged if you have a clean record...plus lots of dough for a lawyer.
Yeah, you can be her friend but dude,,think about yourself and remember she has a condition that is not stable at best. All women are trouble without this bipolar..so beware that you are going to be fighting a uphill battle with a lot to lose and very little to gain. I know you don't want to hear this as I did not listen to good advice. So dude...always protect yourself and don't write a check that your *** can't cash...good luck as love is BLIND
2007-02-06 05:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she's so bad why even give her a second chance? Save her the embarrassment and break up with her. You're wasting her time, if you can't get over what she did then you don't forgive her in which case you don't need to be with her. You two were broken up, she can do whatever she wants. Doesn't matter if it was a day after you broke up or a week, that's none of your business. No it wasn't love. She doesn't love you, she loves herself. But the fact that she's willing to put herself in the position that could become bad for her shows that she may care for you. She could just be a lunatic. Why would you want to talk to someone who doesn't want to be with you. Someone being obsessive is not a bad reason for breaking up, two people in a relationship should be obsessed with each other. When it's not mutual that's a good reason not to be with someone. You need to move on. Now. You're wasting each other's time. If she's so bad why would you want to be with her anyway? Good luck hon!
2007-02-06 05:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you want to give her a second chance? What do you think would happen if you did give her a second chance? Do you think things would be better and not deteriorate like this again? Does the fact that she may be bipolar bother you? If she is bipolar then she needs professional help and she will not change until she is helped out of her depression and mood swings. the fact that she has extreme mood swings should concern you and she should be looking for help or her parents should be concerned about her enough to get her help. I don't think things will change that much under the conditions you are relaying for the present time. Do you?
2007-02-06 05:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! IB think your better off without her, if you have these hard time now imagine how hard it would be staying together. those feelings you have for her for messing around will not go away trust me. i think you can do better. by the sounds of it she was already thinking about messing around with the guys before you broke up. so i suggest move on and find a girl that is a little more pure and better for you.
2007-02-06 05:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your place I would forgive the girl, but I would never mess with her again. I always follow a proverb: "If someone betrays you once, it's his\her fault. But if the same person betrays you twice, it's your fault". But I can be wroung. Because, "things must be broken to be fixed." Good Luck.
2007-02-06 05:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by Pranto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what kind of freak obsesses over who his ex banged while they were broken up?? Get a life dude. From your question you seem like the one who has the issues, not her.
2007-02-06 05:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by Oswald29 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally i think that she probably was cheating on you with her cousins boyfriend before she broke it off with you.. but if you REALLY love her then i guess but i REALLY wouldn't give her another chance.. i dont think i would even talk to her anymore.. if she has the courage to do this to you once.. she definately wouldn't have anyproblem doing it again.
2007-02-06 05:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by Ms Sinful Azn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds psycho...run the other way and don't look back. Unless you like all the drama.
2007-02-06 05:44:47 · answer #10 · answered by Nat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋