what should i do i have a baby and my babys father loves me sopusebly we had been having alot of problems i was living with him but we have left each other like 4times because we keep on fighting alot for little things he is a really jealous person and i love him but sometimes i just feel confused and i dont want to be with him right now am not with him he wants me to go with him but my family doesnt like him because all the problems we had been having at the same time i want to go with but at the same time i dont i donr know what to do am scared that we are going to still have problems like always what should i do?
2007-02-06 05:35:42 · 14 answers · asked by chikita9 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2007-02-06 05:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by waxingtheturtle2 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't panic as you will scare him away. If you act so needy then he will keep on being immature with you.
You are not altogether innocent either. Sounds like you both have to show a little maturity.
Jealousy is just another form of insecurity. I was very jealous once upon a time..its takes a lot of living but as soon as you can get a grip on your emotions (both of you) then the sooner you can get past all this drama of she sez he sez..blah blah blah and nobody is gonna be the winner and he runs off and leaves you in the lurch with babies and a big heart ache. You have to be the responsible adult as most men are not mature enough for this much responsibility or maturity..I am a man with a bunch of step children and two kids of me own..enough said..stop that crying and show him you are the women he would want for a mate.
2007-02-06 13:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him and yourself a time frame. Tell him you will move in with him in six months to a year [or whatever] if he changes certain things, if he goes to councilling, and if he makes genuine efforts to get along with your family. During that time, work on your own goals and try to figure out what you like and don't like about him and living with him. Find out what you want from relationship, perhaps getting therapy yourself. Make goals and start meeting them, start out very small. See if he has goals and reaches them. See how he handles the baby with you and family around, or at least around you at family's house. Maybe go to therapist together, find out if you can work out problems together. He may or may not be in the future, if so great! if not, start to live your life now and build a yourself a life, and if /when you find someone you will have something of your own to contribute and fall back on. Blessings girl and congrats on baby.
2007-02-06 13:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are having a lot of problems and obviously arguing a lot you need to start talking to each other and finding out what the root of the problems are. The only way you will ever know the truth of anything and why things are happening as they are is to talk about them calmly and in a manner and atmosphere where each of you can be unemotional about things. get things out in the open and then you can deal with them in a calm and reasonable manner. Also, you might consider consulting a marriage counselor to get things out in the open since such an individual can be objective and see your situation for what it is. They can help you both more than you think and maybe get you both to consider each other more where everything is concerned.
2007-02-06 13:41:59 · answer #4 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is right for your baby. Having parents who fight all the time is not the right answer.
When you have a baby the well-being of the baby needs to come first!
I think your parents are right and you should stay away. He sounds potentially abusive because of his jealousy.
2007-02-06 13:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Cuppycake♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound like a good situation. Move back in with your folks, file for child support, and get your head together. Moving around a lot is not good for your baby. He/she needs a stable environment to grow up feeling secure in. The baby should be your first concern. Step up and be the momma.
2007-02-06 13:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need time away from this guy. Try to tell your family to kick back with their comments so you can get some clear clarity on the situation and make a decision on your gut feelings. They can feel the way they do about him but keep it to themselves for now. And tell him to respect you and give you space to figure this out for yourself. It isnt about just him so dont let him make you feel guilty for taking time.
It sounds like you are with him cause of the baby if you argue so much. OR like you really like him or love him but he isnt the one for you. Like he isnt full filling or meeting your needs. Emotional needs. Maybe he isnt the one.
2007-02-06 13:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if you can't live with or without each other, you seem to still love him and seing as you have a baby together I say give it another chance.
2007-02-06 13:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Claudia P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give him another chance. If he doesn't chance just leave him and don't return with him. You should also talk to him, about the things that you like about him, and how do you want to be treated. Good luck. The only one who could decide to return is you, no one else.
2007-02-06 13:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by patty20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some help in teaching you that being controlled by someone is not love. you sound very young ... if you family will help out in this manner than stay with family and get yourself some help hon... jealousy is the next step to abuse ..
2007-02-06 13:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by rogio24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with frends, parents, psyhatrist.
A lot of talking, will make things worse or beter.
Hope he is not a person who desn't wona talk just be open.
2007-02-06 13:50:09 · answer #11 · answered by Smirnof_Ice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋