I'm a firm believer in "be yourself." When I meet a guy, I tell him what music I like, what I like to do, etc... and don't change my mind because of what he likes. If he loves football... that's fine, that doesn't mean I'm going to suddenly love it. I know so many girls who completely change their interests and personalities for guys. Am I the only one who thinks that's dumb?
2007-02-06 05:13:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To clarify... I'm not talking about girls who pick up new interests after meeting a guy, I'm talking about girls who blatantly dislike something and then say they enjoy and play along. (I know girls like this).
2007-02-06 05:28:34 · update #1
NO! In fact, my husband of 32 years loves my independance! I have never developed a liking for football and in fact, I use to laugh at it when we were dating. I made fun of all those big strong men running and tackling each other over a pigskin!
My husband loves me just as I am (Like Faith Hill sang!)
2007-02-06 05:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the most part, it is "dumb." However, not all girls that suddenly pick up new interests are doing it just to be more like their boyfriend. My husband has introduced me to many things that I honestly now enjoy.
Also, not to say you're the bad apple, sometimes having a guy changes your perspective in a way that helps you pick out who's just looking for entertainment and who really is a friend. Though most people have a point where their good friend is at odds with your man, a good friend knows when the man is making you happy and shut up or just work around the matter.
2007-02-06 05:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by erythisis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have company in that belief. Many persons are so insecure that they feel the overpowering need to feel accepted by someone. This is a crisis because they'll never experience the satisfaction of just being "you' in that relationship. the most rewarding thing is to be with someone who knows all about you and loves you anyway. why waste time with someone who will not learn to appreciate you in the best way possible?
2007-02-06 05:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by melecia h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I also agree with what you are saying. sometimes it's good to listen to you heart instead of you mind, but your heart can be wrong sometimes. People, probably mostly girls, change so much for a guy to like them and they end up being hurt by them. And it's sad because there is nothing anyone can do but give them advice, at the end of the day they are going to do whatever they want...
2007-02-06 05:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by <3Hearts<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i also believe being yourself is the best way to get a guy. Girls who change themselves for men are so fake and you can never seem to trust them. They will play along but once you turn your back they are all over you like a pack of wolves.
2007-02-06 05:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by Starr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because they have an inferiority complex? They aren't comfortable being themselves; think someone will only like them if they are a mirror of the other person.
I'm with you, be yourself. Strength of character will always win out. If the person you are trying to impress isn't impressed with you the way you are, you will simply move on to someone who will find you as impressive as you are!
2007-02-06 05:19:31 · answer #6 · answered by kk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that I changed when I met my boyfriend is riding dirt bikes and four wheelers...I never used to then he got me into it. I don't think its necessarily changing what you do but maybe just trying new things. I don't love football like he does but I LOVE watching it WITH him because its fun to watch him get all worked up over it and yell at the TV...he is cute.
2007-02-06 05:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by ~J*me~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People pretend to be just the what the other person would like. It's human nature. If you are the honest one, then its probably the guy that enjoys your hobbies, music etc.
It's dumb.
2007-02-06 05:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by corryglory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur not dumb...be yourself and if a guy doesnt accept the way u are there are many out there...dont change ur ways just because of one guy...unless its a certain bad habit ur tryin to improve then yea u should learn to change that but other than that...stay true to urself and i feel the same exact way u do
2007-02-06 05:19:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becuase they desperately want him to like them, but their doing it the wrong way. It's the same as a guy pretending to be a nice guy to get the girl to like him, when in the end he's just an angry dude.
2007-02-06 05:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋