There is a woman at work who's company I enjoy a great deal. She and I are both in committed relationships.
However, I am very attracted to her. I have fantasized about being with her. Should I tell her?
If I DO tell her, how should I tell her?
2007-02-06 05:06:51 · 13 answers · asked by Joe Bostonian 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes women like to know those things BUT if you are both in committed relationships KEEP IT TO YOURSELF!! You can only cause problems & uncomfortable moments with her!
2007-02-06 05:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by ms_debbieg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I tell ya....You already know that it's a "Make it or Break it" thing to do. And you my friend, are the only one here who knows what your actual intentions are - meaning in short, what you're hoping to gain by telling her this. I think you've already decided to tell her, but are looking for a confidence builder by asking all of us aren't ya ? LOL. Actually, I don't blame ya.
One thing you need to make DAMM sure of first is that she has the same feeling about you. Otherwise, forget it. If she doesn't at least flirt with you and then all of the sudden you drop this bomb line on her about your fantacy, you might come home with a broken nose.
Go have some fun...Ya can't be good all the time now, eh ? Just don't get caught. Good luck.
2007-02-06 05:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lexington 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes occasionally when You hear a man tell you he fantasizes about you it is quite a compliment. I your case you are both in committed relationships and if yours acctually ment something to you, you wouldn't be asking if you should hit on this ither woman. Ask your self how much does the relationship your in now mean to you. Telling someone you fantasize about them is definately hitting on them.
2007-02-06 05:14:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't, because that would make her feel very uncomfortable. It could make her feel harassed, making for a very bad work environment for both of you (and your other coworkers) and a possible lawsuit for you.
The only person you might consider discussing this with is your current significant other. If you are having serious fantasies about someone else, perhaps that is a sign that your relationship needs work.
2007-02-06 05:14:49 · answer #4 · answered by somebody 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women do like to be told that men fantasize about them, but usually not by men that they're not involved with. It depends on your particular relationship with this woman.
Also - what do you expect to happen from telling her? It seems a pointless thing to do - in particular to plan - if you really are in a committed relationship.
2007-02-06 05:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by XnameX 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't. In your situation, you should keep it to yourself. It is inappropriate and it is disrespectful to your significant other. If you feel that your relationship is lacking, you should talk to your girlfriend/wife/significant other about it instead of seeking out excitement elsewhere. In the case of coworker, your job, your relationship with this woman, and your relationship with your significant other are all at risk.
All men have fantasies. Heck all women have fantasies. It's normal. It's just a part of who you are. The gentlemen know how to control their impulses and keep it to themselves. You have a brain, use it.
If you have fantasies about about your significant other, on the other hand, you should tell her if your relationship have reached that level of intimacy. I like to be told that I'm the star of my man's fantasies. It gives me week knees and all hot and bothered when the love of my life tells me that he desires me so much.
2007-02-06 05:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by Elisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I tend to agree. Believe it or not, until I reached Uni, I thought sex was just something that guys were into and that girls just put up with it because they wanted to spend time with their bf's. Naiive, perhaps, but if you look at what media is on TV, ads, prints, most of it will stereotype guys as hounding sex fiends, while treating girls as innocent and unknowing. That image is totally flushed out the window at college, lol. Mostly from the relationship stories flying around campus from boys and girls alike.
2016-03-29 07:52:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell her....There are somethings that are ment not to be told and this is one of them...You dont want her to feel ackward around you...and I dont know if you know her good enough that she might tell the one your in a committed relationship with...Please think things through before acting out on it...
2007-02-06 05:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell her. Just say she is very attractive.
2007-02-06 05:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by Danny S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her and be specific about your fantasies. Tell her you dream of seeing her with her panties off.
2007-02-06 05:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by Mex 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋