well last night i my bf and i had a aguement which realy upset me and i ended up self harming,i didnt cut deeply.well just now i text my bf telling him what i did cause i felt guilty if i didnt tell him.i self harmed before and he knows i use to do.i quit doing not long ago is this is the first time iv done it again since i quit.i tryed ringing hes moble and he cut the call on me.hes mum on the phone so i think hes annoyed at me.i dunno what todo
2007-02-06 05:00:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are obviously starving for attention and are not getting it from him so either get some professional help and work on your issues or stop calling him-guys don't like that ****-sorry but true!
2007-02-06 05:04:43 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all, he's probably also upset about the argument, so he might have been likely to ignore you anyway, and it was a bad time to tell him that you self harmed.
He probably feels like your using this as a way to make him feel guilty, and like he's in the wrong, and to get him to make up with you. This would make anyone angry.
It also sounds like your not ready to have a relationship yet, if an argument with your boyfriend pushes you to self harm. In my opinion it would be better for you if you are not with him, and better for him too, because it's difficult being with someone when your actions can affect someone like this. A very good friend of mine is going through a hard time emotionally right now, and every time I speak to her I get paranoid that I might have said something that might trigger her to do something bad.
2007-02-06 05:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by XnameX 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have some serious issues to discuss here. Harming yourself in ANY way is a serious issue. Your boyfriend has every right to be annoyed with you. What reasons do you have to cut yourself? You are worth more than that. Are you dealing with depression, contemplating suicide? Does your family/friends know about this? I would recommend counseling before really anything else. Let me know what you decide, keep me posted and best wishes!!!
2007-02-06 05:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say clingy and neurotic? OMW!! I use to cut myself and it was just for attention. You really need help, seriously! That would be the fasted way to lose a guy! Cut yourself up to make him feel guilty? That's sad. And I can say that because I use to do that. I use to make mountains out of mole hills (make things seem bigger then they were) just so my guy would pay attention to me. I lost him that way. Thank God a few years later I got a chance at real love again.. Knock it off. Find someone to talk to instead of cutting yourself..
2007-02-06 05:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by heartache 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want to tell him what you did to yourself to punish and blame him. He upset you, you chose to cut yourself, and now you want him to know so he'll feel guilty. You don't seem healthy enough to be in a relationship right now. Get therapy and deal with your problems- don't dump your emotional issues on another person.
2007-02-06 05:05:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should stop defining yourself by how others perceive you, or how you THINK others perceive you.
You should seek counselling for the cutting.
Until you deal with your own demons, it will be next to impossible to have a healthy relationship.
2007-02-06 05:08:56 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Bostonian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, well I'm sure he doesn't know what to do with you! How do you expect to have a good relationship when your head is so screwed up??? Get yourself some help!
2007-02-06 05:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would he want to be you boyfriend if everytime you have an argument you cut yourself ( or what ever you do to yourself). It's emotional blackmail and he's not playing. Grow up!
2007-02-06 05:11:32 · answer #8 · answered by emmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... Stop cutting yourself to get attention. Learn how to deal with your feelings.
2007-02-06 05:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by Prissy 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
give him some space... Wait a little bit before you call him and if it is your fault you had the arguement then say you are sorry...
but if its his fault wait for him to call you. if he doesn't you call him and ask him if he still likes you... wait a few days or he may have not calmed down and might brake up with you....
2007-02-06 05:07:34 · answer #10 · answered by pelopidas594 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋