Im 17 and ive moved out twice now and my mom just sits and creis all the time so i come home im a senior in high school but i feel that if thats what i want to do then i should do it! I moved in with my aunt both times! my parents were really strict adn my aunt wasnt i did a lot more at her house my parents are more linient now but i still feel like i could be a better person on my own and making my own decisions what do you think
2007-02-06 05:00:39 · 16 answers · asked by Lena 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hon Id say think about this very carefully.
Weigh in the advantages and disadvantages of the situation.
And go with the least dangerous and risky option. Living with parents can be pretty hectic, and heavy on the nerves sometimes, but Id rather live and deal with the people I know how to handle then go out and deal with the unknown.
Maybe the aunt is a good option.
Just make sure no matter what you do, youre physically and financially safe and sound and with people you trust fully ok?
Good luck!
2007-02-06 05:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by Antares 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for your 18th birthday. Finish High School without the need to provide food, shelter, clothing, etc., for yourself. Get a job and save up some money - a lot of money - it costs a small fortune to put a down payment on an apartment, turn on and pay for utilities, buy food, clothing, medical aid, etc. If you are old enough to want to take control of your own life, you are old enough to provide for yourself instead of living off the kindness of your aunt or your parents. If, at age 18, you still desire your own independence and you can totally provide the monetary means to do so, then go for it. Make sure you leave with good relations with your parents. If you mean to leave and have the state provide for you, you are not mature enough, wise enough or self-sufficient enough to leave home. The only thing that would make a difference is if you were being mistreated. However, from the way you phrased your question, it appears to me you just don't like your parents' rules. Everyone has rules. You'll have to learn that in life. You want a job, you have to obey the rules of employment. You want an apartment, you have to obey the rules of your landlord.
2007-02-06 05:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by padwinlearner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds more like you want the leniency than actually making your own decisions. You want to be able to do more "fun" stuff and get away from the "strict" household of your parents. Your parents on the other hand are trying to raise you into a responsible adult -- something that won't happen if you keep running from adversity (in this case, the "strict" living arrangements). May seem like a good idea now to run away and live with another relative cause it's more fun, but in the long run (as long as your parents aren't abusive), the "strict" upbringing might be the better thing for you (as far as turning into a responsible, self-sufficient adult goes).
2007-02-06 05:10:33 · answer #3 · answered by Goddess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it's sounds like there is more here than meets the eye. I agree that you should be able to have some autonomy, perhaps a lot more than you do at home. I think that it would be nice to find out why your mother is so upset about it.
You need to sit down calmly with your mom and explain that you need to be treated more like a grown up. That you love her and don't want to hurt her personally but need to be treated like the maturing person that you are trying to be. Let her talk about what is wrong with her a bit and then explain the same thing to your dad. Remember a mature person will talk to them like an adult without accusations or innuendos.
You may even seek family counseling.
2007-02-06 05:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by Makemeaspark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
17 is an awfully young age to be on your own. It would be better for you to wait until you graduate high school and then move in with your aunt if you want to. Mistakes you make at your age could have far-reaching consequences. Your parents love you and want what's best for you. I'm sure your aunt does too, but the freedom she allows you isn't necessarily what's best for you. You have the rest of your life ahead of you. It won't hurt to wait a year.
2007-02-06 05:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by Paulie D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your exact situation is, but I had a friend in high school who moved in with her aunt during high school because her parents were horrible. This isn't just "my parents make me come home at 11 instead of midnight like my other friends," they just treated her like a slave and like she had no right to be a part of their family. That was a good reason to move out. She needed to be loved and needed self confidence. If your aunt is more loving and caring than your parents, then move out. If living with your parents is harming you, then move out.
IF, on the other hand, you want to move out because your parents won't let you go everywhere you want, for as long as you want, and spend your money on anything you want, this is just them caring about you and trying to protect you. Stick with it until college and then you can leave. Proabably when you have kids of your own you'll understand them.
2007-02-06 05:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by Katie L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby birds grow up and leave the nest. It's the way of the world. It kinda sounds like your mom hasn't accepted the fact that you are growing up. 18 or 19, (maybe as late as early 20's) is about the right time for you to find your own footing in life. If your parents gave you the proper background you'll be able to do that.
2007-02-06 05:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just a 17 year old looking for the easy path. Moving to your aunts isn't "moving out" Your mom cries because it is hard to watch someone you love and cared for all their life dash blindly out into a dangerous world thinking they cant be hurt(like most 17 yr olds) Try showing that you are responsible enough to handle the real world and do what it takes to really move out on your own and your mom will know you can handle it and be proud of you instead of scared for you.
2007-02-06 05:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by eric 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are a senior in high school, then you can wait it out until graduation and then move out. It's totally normal for you to want to be on your own, but in our culture, parents are generally in charge of their children until they graduate from high school and they turn 18.
2007-02-06 05:06:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you think you can handle being out on your own then go for it. just know that one day your mom will get over it and except the fact that her baby has grown up. also know that someday they may not let you come back when you want to.
2007-02-06 05:05:08 · answer #10 · answered by tinker_bell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋