I'm so depressed. Does anyone have advice for me?

Question

It's almost Valentines day and I don't have a valentine. The girl I have feelings for let me down.

My social life stinks at the moment because my friends have all gone their different ways to different places and colleges.

I don't have a car so I can't go out whenever or wherever I feel like.

I look terrible at the moment because I don't care anymore.

I'm too shy to meet new girls and friends.

Even some sh!t advice would be helpful.

Answer 1

Maybe first you could find a close by job. Then you could save up and buy a car. That should give you pretty good confidence. Also visiting a church and getting involved with a group there. They take trips and you wouldnt have to drive. Just find something you could do to gain confidence and the rest should fall into place.

Answer 2

I'm sorry you feel this way but to change the course of you're life, you, and you alone will have to take action. I believe, most of us ant one time or another faced being alone, left out etc..
First you must open you're eyes, look around, really look, you will find some one out there that is much worse off than you. I'm assuming you have you're health and all you're limbs, that's more than some. I say to you, find a Church or give you're time to a good cause, help out where it's needed and you no longer will be alone. Transportation is a bit of a problem but if you have a job, you could soon get a Scooter, ( we all have to start somewhere)
From experiences, the more you give of yourself, the more you receive in return.
First, get cleaned up and look you're best as can be it will make you feel better and stop feeling sorry for yourself, that's a downer. No matter what, always think, surround yourself with POSITIVE VIBES, that will open doors as well. Remember, no one wants a whiner.
Don't worry about Valentine, there are many more to come and I bet, that if you apply some of this, you'll have more than one Valentine next year.

Answer 3

My world gets a bit like that too. I am divorced and all my friends are married so I don’t get out much and it is difficult to make new friends at 36. Exercise is good for depression but the easiest thing is just put a smile on your face, even if you are faking it. It has a strange way of tricking your body into believing you are really happy and next thing you know you actually will be happy. trust me it works, It don’t hurt to show the ladies a smile either. As far as being lonely on V day just try to do something for yourself , if you have found someone before it will happen again. Work on making yourself happy in the meantime cause that’s when things start to really happen.

Answer 4

Don't you know by now that valentine's day is designed to distract you with what you don't have, (or do have, for that matter) so that you don't think about the real problems going on in the world?

Get out of your head for a bit.

or

talk **** about your girl, it may be wrong but it does help sometimes.

call/email your old friends, they probably miss you too

take a cab or walk somewhere that comforts you

have a shower (not one of those 5 minute ones, like a "1st date" shower)

go to the bookstore and hang out in the sections that interest you. you can at least have fun laughing at the **** in self help (I met my husband this way - 7+ years ago!)

Everyone has down cycles in their social life, you'll probably look back on this in a few months and realize that all this was just because you needed a little quiet time to regroup after your breakup.

Answer 5

Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Women are fickle. Get used to it and move on. There are plenty of girls to go around. Go to Match.com, etc.
Need a car - get a second job, save up and buy a 2nd hand one.
Looks - get a grip.
Too shy - try yoga, the gym, self esteem classes at the Learning Annex, therapy.

Answer 6

You know what.I was feeling the same way a few days ago,and ever since then i have been praying so that my life got better everyday,and that i would be a happy person.You can check it out on my questions the best answer i chose.Hope that helps.

Answer 7

Why don't you join a sports team or a club. I did that & I have a lot more friends & am happier with my life.=) Or Volunteer I do this as well. I volunteer with animals so it makes you feel good & you meet new people.

Answer 8

Pray Honey I guess... that is what I am doing and your story kind of sounds like mine.... eating healthy and organic, also lots of raw vegetables and fruits will help to balance the chemicals in your body to help with the depression.

Answer 9

You should pray about it. Always know that when you are down, trust that God will pick you back up. He is working in your life right now, possibly just preparing you for what is to come. Hang in there;)

Answer 10

I know you feel miserable just pray to God, soon you'll have new friends and you never know mabye even the car you want.