I won’t be making much more in the beginning, but there is a lot of room for advancement. It’s a Federal Job; My X told me that they are moving down South in a few years, where I will be at.
2007-02-06 04:56:38 · 18 answers · asked by bob 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At 5 she wont understand and will feel like you abandoned her. A few years is a lifetime to a child.
2007-02-06 05:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the workforce for more than 30 years and I am convinced that family is more important than work.
Bottom line is that if something happened to you and you became unable to work, you would be replaced as quickly as possible and after a month or so, there would be no sign at your workplace that you were ever there. After a year or so, a lot of the people you work with would be hard-pressed to remember you and certainly wouldn't think of you often.
This is not true for your daughter. You are her only daddy, and the relationship you forge with her is unique. If you lose touch with her, you lose something that is irreplaceable. Plus, jobs come or go at the convenience of an employer; if it's economically necessary for them to lay you off, they will do it. Your daughter is going to be with you, in one way or another, for your entire lifetime.
Just an example of what this means: through death of my mom and his increasing infirmity, I've become my dad's caretaker. He has no one else. He'd be in pretty bad shape if I wasn't there for him.
Choose your daughter. It's true that nobody ever went to their deathbed wishing they'd spent more time on the job.
2007-02-06 06:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by Karin C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the Job! A Federal Job gives you very good benefits and that will be in favor for your daughter. If you decide to move that may not be bad either just check out the neighborhood. What ever benefits your daughter is good.
2007-02-06 05:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by niesy l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this really does put you in a tough position. i would chose my 5 year old daughter though. no amount of money in the world would be worth be not being able to be there for my child and to see them grow up. they grow up fast enough as it is. they grow up even faster when you are away from them for a long period of time. i speak from experience. i used to volunteer at a summer camp of kids with disabilities. i did this for 6 1/2 years. i was fortunate enough to have the same kids for the whole time i was there year after year. now of course they weren't biologically my kids but i seen them as such as they relied on me for so many things and i absolutely loved them. when i came back at the beginning for each summer and seen just how much they grew up from the last time i seen them which had been about 9 months earlier, it had brought tears to my eyes to think how much of their lives that i had missed and how happy i was to see them again. a job can be replaced, your child's childhood cannot. so that is why i would choose my child over my job. take it from someone who has been there. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-06 07:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. If you have visitation with your daughter and are able to have her reasonably through visitation (maybe twice a month) and use your annual leave for her in the summer it could work out. And if she is eventually moving that way it won't be so bad. It sounds like in the beginning it will be a little rough. Good luck!
2007-02-06 05:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always find another job, the relationship with your daughter however is more important and cannot be replaced. These are the bonding years. It's nice to know that you care. You sound like a good Dad.
2007-02-06 05:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jacuzzi Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may think you'll be financially richer in the future (no guarantees) but no amount of money will ever make up for the time you lost with your daughter. Your daughter will grow up with or without you, it all depends on what your willing to miss out on and what your willing to sacrifice in order to share these special memories.
Jobs and money come and go, but memories last a lifetime. It just depends on what you can live with.
2007-02-06 05:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter only get to grow up once, do you want to miss it? I'd say that if your income is steady now, pick your daughter. You don't know how much you can change your little girl's life just my being in it. Make the right choice, pick the relationship with your daughter.
2007-02-06 05:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by JoAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no decision to make...you chose to have a child, now choose to raise your child and be with your child! Get a decent job where your daughter is and spend time with her.
Children are more important than any career is.
2007-02-06 06:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, can you still see your daughter maybe once a month or make arrangements for her to visit? Possibly invest in a web cam or something so that she is able to still communicate and see you. Tough decision! Good luck to you.
2007-02-06 05:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by Olivia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋