We've finally talked about getting engaged and marriage after almost 5 years. I was very excited, i do want to get marry. At the same time I'm very indecisive of the path I'm taking with him. I fear the marriage isn't going to be a pretty picture . I even think the issues and problem we might have (we both have a kid from previous relationship). Perhaps some fears coming from observing my parents' marriage, i've been staying with my parents last two years. Sometimes they would say things like that they don't see my marriage will last with him etc.... it hurts my feeling and makes me doubting my relationship. I've broken up/fought with him 2 or 3 times already since he talked about marry me. I don't know what's wrong with me, sometimes I'm so angry at him for nothing. Then I would call quit, saying we're not compatible etc. I just did it again. He revealed he already bought the ring and now will return it. I love him and picture myself be with him everyday.
2007-02-06 04:49:42 · 14 answers · asked by cover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well girl if u love this guy then marry him.Don't listen what ur parents have to say.It sounds like ur deeply in love with him and u wanna keep it that way.Listen lots of people have very good relationships and get married and live pretty good.Don't u want that life for u kid and your boyfriend.Then don't listen to anyone get married and enjoy life.Beleive me it's worth taking a shot.GOOD LUCK and when u gat married CONGRATULATIONS i hope u have a good life!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-06 04:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by stacy_diva_girl619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents know you better than you realize. You should listen to the reasons they believe marriage is not a good idea with this man. Also, with your pattern of breaking up several times, and with children in the picture, you would be making a mistake to bring these kids into such an insecure relationship. They have been through enough already. They need a confident mother who can make solid decisions without having to rely on the approval of a man. You should spend more time building your confidence and don't marry out of fear of being alone. You have a child to raise - that is your first priority. Good luck to you.
2007-02-06 12:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by Teresa M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very confused about what you want. I would suggest that the two of you see a couples counselor BEFORE you get married. The counselor can help you identify problems that should be addressed before you take the next step in your relationship. If those problems can't be fixed then better to find out beforehand so you don't wind up in divorce court.
You also need to work on your self esteem. Don't let your parents' opinions control your life. It's what you think that's important.
2007-02-06 13:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old you are. If you're over 21 then you need to shut out everyone elses opinions and listen to your own. When your parents start saying something about it then leave the room or even better the house. If you're under 21...you should really consider your parent's opinion and not get married. It's too young and there is a small chance it will work out.
2007-02-06 12:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are uncertain - that means doubts and it can also mean that you know deep down he is not the one for you but yet he has been in the picture for 5 years. He seems to be your comfort zone... you need to completely break away from him for a while and have some you time... find out what you want out of yourself and most of all what is going to be healthy for your children... sounds to me like you know he is not the one but you have been with him so long that he is just comfortable and you are in a holding pattern.
2007-02-06 12:55:50 · answer #5 · answered by jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him like u say u do then y do u care what ur parents think about ur relationship???? if u really want to marry then marry him. sit down with him and tell him what u really think and feel and just see where it goes from there
2007-02-06 12:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by mustangsweetthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need marriage to be happy, so just don't get married that's simple you wanna be with him just don't marry him but you must talk to him before you lose him for good. because you have a bad case of cold feet that makes him feel on easy!! so just let him know how you feel.... Good Luck
2007-02-06 12:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you love this boy dont listen to your parents.I kon that sounds kinda harsh but they are trying to put you down and its working.go with your heart and stay with this guy if yuor happy.go get some marriage counsleing it helps a lot. but stay wit him nad explain to him what has been going on.while your doing that get a way from your parents house and stay some where where its more positive energy.
2007-02-06 12:56:03 · answer #8 · answered by xxrlhoodratxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like the relationship is going to work.
2007-02-06 12:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your probably better off NOT getting married..
i mean if your constantly fighting.. constantly on and off
it doesn't sound like either of you are ready for that type of commitment
2007-02-06 12:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋