I am in a relationship that I feel is a mistake. He doesn't treat me right and I dont feel the love. I am starting to feel that I should have just stayed with my ex. He treated me good of course we had our ups and downs but I just lost the love I had for him aswell and didnt want to lead him on. Now I dont know what i am doing and starting to think that it is me. After allthis experience I had having my heart broken i just dont feel like I could ever love again. I dont think there is someone out there for me and I am fine about it. I would much rather be alone and happy then in a relationship and miserable for the rest of my life. How about you???
2007-02-06 04:41:58 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you need to spend some time by yourself. You might be a codependent type of person (always having to be with someone), and this is something you should get over. It doesn't sound like either of these guys is a right match for you. You'll find someone who is right for you when you stop looking so hard.
2007-02-06 04:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by boredperv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are on the right path there. It is much better to be alone and happy than miserable and in a bad relationship. Sometimes, to me, that seems like the right course of action. That saying: "Everybody needs somebody sometimes" is true in some cases, but not in all. Some people are happy with themselves and don't feel the need to have companionship all the time just to feel human. If the guy you're with is making you feel like you need to leave, then leave. You should never sacrifice your happiness for anything. Try to keep your head up and I'm happy to see that there are some women out here who realize that happiness come from within.
2007-02-06 04:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by Emerald 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society makes us feel like we HAVE to do everything in pairs or as a couple.
YOU do what makes YOU happy! YOU will be the one you have to live with at the end of the day, and YOU don't want to live miserably, do you? Some people would call that selfish, but if YOU know YOU better than anyone, YOU call the shots! WE don't want YOU to end up in a miserable relationship, having kids, teaching them that they should settle for a relationship, no matter how miserable they are, just so they can have someone there? Do we?
2007-02-06 04:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up on love, but don't rush into any relationships either. I've been in the same sort of position as you. I was with someone for 10 years (fell out of love), afterwards I dated a bit but was never happy. Started thinking I'd never find someone that I could love or that would love me. Eventually it happened and I can honestly say that I'm more in love then I ever was before. All these relationships will teach you more about yourself, and what you want in a man. Just give it time and have fun getting to know yourself!
2007-02-06 04:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you feel you are in a bad relationship and he treats you bad, then of course the best thing to do is get out of it.
Sometimes being alone is much better than being in a relationship that is a continuous disappointment. The sooner you break it off, the sooner you will heal and be able to share your life with someone who will treat you right.
Stop wasting time on something you know isnt going to work, and starting the healing process.
You will find what you are looking for, it will just take a little time.
Good luck hun.
2007-02-06 04:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you have to do is have a meaning talk with your current relationship. Share with them what you expect from them (give details) and what you want from the relationship (be honest). If they are willing to meet you half way stay and work things out for awhile. If after awhile there is still something missing think about moving on, there's no use in being unhappy.
Remember though if you are not truly happy with yourself nobody will ever make you happy. You have to love yourself first before you can ever have a meaningful relationship with anyone.
2007-02-06 04:52:53 · answer #6 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and yes. It sounds like it may be time for you to move on =) and there's nothing wrong with that, or even spending time on your own. I agree completely, I'd rather be alone than be in a miserable relationship. You will from time to time have your heart broken, that happens. I think by listening to you, you already know how you feel either way, which puts you worlds apart from most people! Good luck!!!
2007-02-06 04:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are just not ready for a serious relationship. It sounds as if once the chase is over you get bored...and the challenge is gone. Maybe you need to look for someone that is more of an intellectual challenge. And remember, you are complete as a women with or without a man, so yes, if you are happier alone, there is nothing wrong with that. I would choose myself over misery anyday--but, I would still leave myself open to a relationship if I felt he was the right guy.
2007-02-06 04:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes being alone is better than being unhappy, but do u really want to be alone? I have an interview set up with a young man who seems really NICE today, I cant wait to get back into the real world and actually meet new people. I hope to find a great guy (like today ;) Life is very sad without someone to share it with.
2007-02-06 04:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by Ashy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Love that Name) First. it's not over. You've got a Beautiful beating Heart. it has the solution to your Problem. You've just gotta get back in touch with what it's saying. You've put your Romance on a Level of looking at other things. The Heart! It's The Heart, Stupid! it's where you should be looking for Love. Don't give up on yourself. `cause I haven't. You're worth it. You're a winner.
2007-02-06 04:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋