2007-02-06 04:41:36 · 23 answers · asked by Dan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good news! There IS a solution to your problem! Its a simple thing really. You have to get out and communicate with people. In other words, DO NOT BE A HOME BODY! You can only build your confidence by being around people. Chatting, emails, and discussion forums is NOT the best form of communication; face to face communication is. Observing peoples facial expressions and changes in their voice will tell you a lot when communicating. You learn about people and people learn about you. A majority of women like confident, not "cocky", men. Women want someone they can be a friend to first and then lover. You should want the same thing. However, the only way to know these things is to get out there and experience LIFE. Doing so will boost your confidence and before you know it your shyness will take a back seat.
I wish you the best!
2007-02-06 04:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by Goober W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way is to not worry bout what a girl thinks, your just as good as any other guy and you can offer a lady anything any other guy could its just some choose to be a$$holes...........and treat them badly, start out by kind of training yourself go up to a girl that you think your interested in even if u think u have no chance, I'm sure you can get anyone you desire you just have to believe that u can. Like guys tell girls be confident b/c that's sexy. But like i was saying go up to a girl and ask her out to catch a movie. The more practice the better you'll get. If you get rejected o well you know u must be better than that and go look for u someone better and that you deserve.
GOOD LUCK
2007-02-06 04:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. I am shy too. But overcame most of it by making myself do things that were uncomfortable.
Eventually I got use to these activities and now shyness does not dominate my life.
For example I use to go into only one branch of the bank, and would only do business if the teller I was use to was working. I realized this was a hinderance so I made myself go to other branches and different tellers. Now its not a problem. Did similar in meeting girls. It was uncomfortable at first, but after a while I got better with practice.
It is worth it to overcome shyness.
2007-02-06 04:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by Wind Chime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to build your confidence. What's the worst that can happen if you approach a woman and she rejects you? You get rejected....you don't die, someone doesn't bust your head open with a bat....all that happens is you get rejected. Work on using some funny and cocky(not mean or conceded) lines or comebacks. Even if you don't feel confident, act like you are, hold your head high, use eye contact, don't look away until she does. Always remember, even if she is the most beautiful woman in the place, she has insecurities and she is human just like everybody else.
2007-02-06 04:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by mvas800 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to build your confidance. Start small by talking to female friends then slowly work your way up to females you do not know. Smile at a girl and she will usually find a reason to talk to you! You are who you are, don't try to change yourself being shy can attract a girl as well. A lot of woman like the shy quiet type.
2007-02-06 04:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember that the girl may be just as shy. Just think of them as a friend first. That is what I have tried to do. I am extremely shy around guys and so I just try to remember that they are probably just as nervous as I am and think of them as just another friend and it has helped a lot!! I am still shy, but I can tell that there is a difference. I can actually get a complete sentence out.. Just try to relax... I know it's hard.
2007-02-06 04:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by canumoveitlkths 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, with time & maturity. When you become 50, you'll look back and wonder why you were so shy but then you're too old to attract the kind of chick you really wanted. Oh well....
2007-02-06 04:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just suck it up! If you are 25 then u have obviously been this way a while and you see that it is not getting u anywhere. I used to be that way, now I am a socialite....it wasn't getting me very far being like that. Have a little drink that will make you loosen up a little
2007-02-06 04:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by TNL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can afford it, professional therapists are very helpful in overcoming shyness. If you have anxiety or nervousness in public you may be prescribed Zoloft, something that calms moods and can help you feel more confident Also, if you try to use sites such as Eharmony or match.com, you might be able to meet people and trade emails for a little while so that you will be more confident when you meet them in person. Good luck buddy!
2007-02-06 04:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by ro2342001 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
MAN. go to a bar or a club with a dance floor n start a RIOT..girls love a guy that can dance so wildly.....n bro...im shy n single too...but im only shy when it comes to gorgeous girls only...but when im around cute,pretty n beautiful girls...im cool.....good luck with that problem..dude.
2007-02-06 04:48:31 · answer #10 · answered by cutespanishhomeboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋