My girlfriend of 4 and a half years and I recently split and things just aren't going that well. I am in a new area, starting a new job, and I don't really have any close friends nearby. My parents and family all live on the otherside of the country. This is the most alone I've ever fault and I go to bed and wake up thinking about my ex. It's horrible. The worst part is that we've had a lot of problems lately and I had promised myself that I'd do all I could to make it work. I feel that I did so and it still didn't work. I guess I'm not used to trying my hardest at something and failing, but now I'm just lost on what to do with myself. My best friend who I used to lean on was my girlfriend and now she's gone. Should I consider seeking professional help or just go to a bar and have a couple crazy nights?
2007-02-06 04:35:05 · 10 answers · asked by jandiun 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi there!!!
My heart goes out to you, I know how hard a breakup can be. All of these feelings that you are going through is to be expected after a breakup , and to add insult to injury you are in a new place you must think making it more painful . As hard as this time is for you, stop for a moment and relax. I would not go out to a bar for a couple of crazy nights, no honey, that will not resolve anything. You could get drunk and do something you could later regret and anyway you want to keep a clear mind.
This could be a blessing in disguise, really. You are in a new place, new job, this is a new life sweetie !!! Take advantage of it.
You say that you tried your hardest to make your relationship work, do not feel bad about it. You gave it your best shot. Keep your head up high.
Your girlfriend was your best friend, and now you feel like you are out of love and a friendly face that understands you, this is very frustrating.
Take this time to get to know more about you. Give yourself the gift of discovering yourself spiritually.
Do not allow this life experience to cloud your good judgement and quality of life. Don't allow yourself to become depressed, yes it is sad to go through all of the things you are going through.
If you feel you need to speak to someone, go to a counsler, but I must confess to you , that ultimalty we have the power within, we are in charge of how we allow others to make us feel, how we will react to any given situation.
If you like to read you can go to Hayhouse.com , they have really good self help books. I love the book from Louise l. Hay, " The power is within ", there is also an author by the name of Sandra Anne Taylor, she has some very interesting books that are awesome, the one I recommend for you is called "Quantum Success "
When the thoughts of your ex come to haunt you, aknowledge them, but then let them go with love. Do not resist a good cry when you have to vent, it is better for you not to hold in feelings of sadness.
I do not know what happened in your relationship, but many times things happen for the best.
Remember that thoughts are things, what you believe to be true for you, what you think about, what you visualize, that will be. Think about it.
I wish you only the best,let us know what happened
Love light and peace
2007-02-06 05:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation does suck but you should try seeing the positive in things like hey new job new friends its actually a good thing you guys have split because if you guys where having problems then space and time is what you need just to take care of business and when you do talk to her again if ever it will allow your mind to be clear of negative vibes. Get a hobbie hicking, reading , heck anything that will keep you sane also go out of weekends and yea have some crazy nights just be careful.
2007-02-06 04:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by D'oh! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you move for your job? If so, yes have a couple of crazy nights, if your carrier is important. Consider moving back where you came from and start repairing things
2007-02-06 04:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by CC Top 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give yourself time to heal before moving on. Hey we have all been in your exact! situation. THat saying time heals or wounds, yeh its true it does. It just takes longer for some people. Stay away from relationships for awhile, have some time to yourself.
2007-02-06 04:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO TO THE BAR HAVE A DRINK AND LET IT GO. YOU ARE IN A NEW CITY, NEW JOB, I AM SURE THAT ONCE YOU GET INTO YOUR NEW JOB YOU WILL FALL INTO A NEW SCENE. GIVE IT SOME TIME AND YOU WILL BE FINE.
2007-02-06 04:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by buzyb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know ur lonely right?
I feel that..
It's not how much you accomplish in life
that really counts,
but how much you give to other.
It's not how high you build your dreams
that makes a difference,
but how high your faith can climb.
It's not how many goals you reach,
but how many lives you touch.
It's not who you know that matters,
but who you are inside.
Believe in the impossible,
hold tight to the incredible,
and live each day to its fullest potential.
2007-02-06 04:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by Gõlden angel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go to the clubs and bars and find you some new ppl!
2007-02-06 04:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by mimibabix3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a new girl and make ur ex extremlely jealous
2007-02-06 04:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
join yahoo personals or match.com. It's economical and you'll be amazed at how many gals have ads. just do it. you'll be glad you did.
2007-02-06 04:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's just get nasty together and forget about everything!!!!
2007-02-06 05:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by Tighty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋