is it sexual harassment when.........?

Question

is it sexual harassment when ur boss keeps askin about your personal life(like if i hav a bf ) and asks u on a date? And it makes me feel so uncomfortable! i feel like punching him in the face

Answer 1

Yes this is SH if he's asking about your personal life, but you have to let him know how you feel and your boundaries after that if it continues then go to the higher ups.

Answer 2

Yes. This is sexual harassment. Anytime anyone asks you about your personal life at work and it makes you feel uncomfortable, you should address it with a higher up manager or Human Resources. He should know better, but obviously he does not, which means since you know better and how it makes you feel, you have every right to say something =). If you lose your job over it, you can have a lawsuit on your hands, not to scare you, but in the business world, these are facts. Good luck!!! =)

Answer 3

depends on the state and situation.

it is definately a situation that could develop into it but if all he has done is ask you out on a date and try to be friendly with you by asking you about your life then it is not.

however, if he persists after you make it clear that you don't want to discuss it, or starts asking questions with detalis about you your sexuality or sex life, or continuously asks you out on a date even after you refuse, then it is going to be sexual harrassment.

just asking you on a date is not inappropriate behavior and not sexual harrassment, but it all depends on how it is done and how he reacts if you turn him down and if he continues it.

make your feelings clear and known and if it persists then take action.

Some companies also have internal rules or company policies against "office" dating.

The problem with many sexual harrasment claims is that the fraudulent ones like many people here are immediately jumping to the conclusion that it is just because your personal life comes into it, is that people don't know where lines are drawn in traditional and normal socializing and normal flirting (asking on a date) which may be acceptable in the workplace to a degree, and sexual harrassment which is stepping over the line and not what would make "you" feel uncomfortable, but what would make the fictitious standard of a normal person uncomfortable so as to determine objectively whether or not his behavior was inappropriate. generally if you don't like it and don't speak up, then unless it is excessive, it isn't sexual harrasment.

Answer 4

As far as I know you cant file sexual harassment case againest your boss just because he asks you on a date and ask if you have a bf. He may just want to be friendly and gt to know you better. I think it may also depened on where you work. Dif place have dif stuff about what is and what isn't sexual harassment.

If I were you I would sit down with you boss, (at work with the office door opened) and tell him that it makes you uncomfortable when he asks you about your personal life and out on dates. Let him know that your relationship with him is purly business related and nothing more. Be nice and profetional about out. He should understand

Answer 5

If he's asking these things, it could be that he's just hopeful and taking a chance, but it makes you feel uncomfortable, then it's wrong. Confront him, tell him you're not interested in dating him and have no wish to discuss your personal life with him. If he persists then it is a harassment issue. If necessary you should be able to consult your union or company policy on this in confidence, which would also help to identify whether he's a habitual creep.
Good luck! :0)

Answer 6

I hope you get some legal advice from someone on here, but I think anyone who is made to feel uncomfortable at their job, has the right to make a formal complaint.

Most of the time, your boss will have a boss of his own, so go above his head and make the complaint.

Answer 7

Let him know that you feel uncomfortable and ask him to stop. If you work for a big company, it is sexual harrassment if he keeps doing it after you have asked him to stop. If he doesn't, get the name and number for his supervisor and let him/her know. If he still continues after contacting his supervisor, then contact the legal department and file a formal complaint. There is a no tolerance for sexual harrassment in the workplace. It should be resolved. Good luck to you. Oh, make sure you avoid being alone with him. It doesn't look good to others.

Answer 8

Well not really he probely wants to know how ur social life is u know.I mean it could be sexual harassment if he asks u to do something u don't wanna do??? He's probely just curiouse u know.And if it bothers u then kidly tell him u like to keep ur social life in a low profile.Im sure he would understand???Don't worry i get that alot it's not really harassment it's just people trying to help and to get to know u better.GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

Yes, this is considered sexual harassment. At my work we had to watch videos of different sexual harassment scenes, and this qualified as one as long as you have let it known to him that he is making you uncomfortable, or that you are not interested. If he continues, then yes, it is definitely considered sexual harassment.

Answer 10

its not harassment. but if it makes you feel uncomfortable the you need to speak up. since he is your boss, do it in a polite but firm way. such as "i dont really like all the talk about my personal life.... how about that superbowl?" lol. not necessarily like that but just make it clear that you dont like the questions and the asking out.

Answer 11

You should speak to someone in HR and address your concerns. It might not be sexual harassment yet, but could lead to something you don't want it to. Besides, you should always have your information on file just in case something happens.