was just reading a question from a lady that fell in love with someone and someone mentioned transference. What the hell is this? Why do psychiatrists have to label everything?! Regardless of the situation you have fell in love! You can fall in love with someone at any time, at any place and in any capacity, professonal or not. Does anyone else believe this crap? I am in a situation where I have fell in love with someone in a professional capacity but it's because I have bloody chemistry with him. I like the person he is and thats it! Bloody transference - next they will be spouting that it's a medical condition. For God's sake you fall in love with people coz you like them don't you? Or is it me? Can anybody explain this??
2007-02-06 04:31:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, verily. You do spout truth. it's nice to see someone has a problem with analyzing insignificant problems. Congrats on being in Love. You're one of the fortunate ones.
2007-02-06 04:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Psychology Definition: "The main characteristic (of transference) is the experience of feelings to a person which do not befit that person and which actually apply to another. Essentially, a person in the present is reacted to as though he were a person in the past. Transference is a repetition, a new edition of an old object relationship.... The person reacting with transference feelings is in the main unaware of the distortion."1Metapsychology Definition: Transference is reacting to a person in the present as though he or she were a person in one's past.
The concept of transference originated with Freud and is commonly used in psychology and psychotherapy. Freud noticed that some patients reacted to him as though he were a parent and that female patients often tended to "fall in love" with him. Freud concluded that, during therapy sessions, patients were unconsciously transferring the feelings and attitudes they had had toward early significant figures in their lives onto the analyst. Initially, he just noted the phenomenon but did not comment on it within the therapy session. Later, he concluded that addressing the transferential relationship between analyst and patient was the curative factor in psychoanalysis, and made interpreting the transference the cornerstone of the theory and practice of psychoanalysis.
Because we use very structured techniques and strict rules in facilitation, transference may not seem to develop in or affect the facilitator/viewer relationship, but it can do so. From other facilitators and technical directors, and from personal observation, it has become clear to me that transference reactions in viewing are exceedingly common. I think it important, therefore, that we pay attention to transference and explore the area thoroughly. Moreover, we need a program to deal with transference when it arises in a viewer/facilitator relationship.
found this on the net hope it answers your question
2007-02-06 04:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by just ask jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
M-W says: "the redirection of feelings and desires and especially of those unconsciously retained from childhood toward a new object (as a psychoanalyst conducting therapy)"
And yes they do have to label things... it's what language is about. If something is defined and you can give one word instead of a paragraph, every time... isn't that easier? lol
You're right though, just because a situation like yours could have been transference, it doesn't mean it is in your case. Sometimes people tend to stick people into a stereotype when they don't fit. If you are in love, that's wonderful! :)
2007-02-06 04:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My understanding of transference is that it is when someone puts their feelings toward another on someone else, and reacts accordingly. For example, a man falling for someone that is 'just like Mom'. Regardless of if that person truly is or not. It can be based on one or two things that someone does that is similar. The problem arises when the person doing the transference then expects said person to indeed be that way all the time. When the person that is 'just like Mom' deviates, then the man becomes upset because 'that isn't how Mom did it!'
If you fall in love with someone for who THEY are, it is fine. If you fall in love with someone because of how much they are like someone else, it is transference and is wrong.
2007-02-06 04:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by Lost in Erehwon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 12:43:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
–noun 1. the act or process of transferring.
2. the fact of being transferred.
3. Psychoanalysis. a. the shift of emotions, esp. those experienced in childhood, from one person or object to another, esp. the transfer of feelings about a parent to an analyst.
2007-02-06 04:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you on this, we have chemistry when we are around others (men and women) and I use to believe that everything was controlled in a sense until it happened to me!! You can't control who you fall in love with, attraction is attraction and temptation is temptation. I believe that when we can't make sense of something we label it, analyze it, study it, bottle it up, write it and sell it as a best seller!!! Love is love and free and even when it makes no sense, it makes us feel alive and even when it's dangerous or forbidden there is just that, that, that....... something (nothing psychological to me)
2007-02-06 04:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by livlovelaugh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Transference is falling for your own doctor or lawyer or therapist. There is nothing wrong with falling for a professional person as long as you're not the client.
2007-02-06 04:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way I understand transference is where one's frustrated anger is taken out on someone else. I haven't heard of 'Love transference'.
2007-02-06 04:37:04 · answer #9 · answered by Birdman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. I guess the psychs have to justify all the money they charge people somehow.
2007-02-06 04:36:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋