How can we help our children grow up as good people?

Question

All the time I see children back talking parents, cussing at them, stealing, sneaking out, and other outrageous things. How can parents prevent that, and what are they doing wrong?

Answer 1

children learn what they are taught. they are mimicking behaviors they have seen. children need good role models and proper education. parents are often unaware how easily children pick up on thier bad habits.

Answer 2

The way my parents prevent things with me is when growing up my parents did not spank me at all, thay took away any fav toys that I love for a week or two or until I showed them that I would do right and thay did not have any problems out of me at all when I got in my teens and now I am grown and out of all my parents kid so far I am the only one that made it all the way out of grade school without dropping out.

It was only little problems with me but not cussing, stealing or sneaking out at all because I never tryed any of them on my parents growing up.

Answer 3

They're not parenting. Families need to spend time together, if only once a week, there needs to be a night where you all talk and let eachother know what's going on in your life. Families need to eat dinner together, it encourages and strengthens the bonds between the family members. Also, there needs to be discipline - too many times are parents giving in to their children letting them have whatever. Children need to learn the value of work, like if they want the new Nintendo DS or Wii or the Playstation 3 they need to earn it through chores or get a job and you'll meet them halfway, so that it is just that much more enjoyable than just having it handed to them. Our jobs as parents is to teach them and prepare them for being in the world on their own, and in the real world you don't have things handed to you, and family is what you rely on. There needs to be manners and respect, and an acceptance for people as they are.

Answer 4

Some of those things, you can't help.....some of them you can.

The most important thing a parent can give their child is love....unconditional love. Sounds easy, but parents (myself included) sometimes mess this up.....unconditional love means love regardless of the childs accomplishments. Regardless of the grade point average, regardless of how soon they walked, talked......love simply because they are "there"....simply because they exist.....

Children also need room to grow and learn. Back-talk (to me) is part of the learning, growing process. In my house, children may speak their mind as long as it's in a respectful tone.

Boundaries are important....children that don't learn boundaries early on, look for them later by stealing, sneaking out, etc. My boys (ages 15 and 16) were told from an early age what the boundaries were and know what they are now, and respect them.

So, unconditional love and boundaries.....

Answer 5

As parents we are the first teachers for our children.We must set a positive role model from day one.Children also need patience.love and understanding. We must have two way communication with our children. Children need to have structure and continuity in their daily lives.There should be a minimum standard of behaviour with the understanding that actions have accountability.As parents we must prepare our children for life,but we cannot live their life.We try our best to help them mature and make good choices,the rest is in their hands.These guidelines for parenting are no guarantee that your life will be troubl and worry free, it just makes the road less bumpy.

Answer 6

The structure must be set when they are quite young. You must always be conscious of everything that you are doing in front of the child and realize that you are being watched, so every opportunity make sure that your actions are always tools for the child's learning and development. Be consistent, patient ,loving, give them early values, goals, in other words, focus on building their character, mingled with a lot of prayer. I raised 4 successful children as a single parent. I can still be done. Good luck and God bless you.

Answer 7

You have to start at an early age teaching them values, discipline, and what they are and are not allowed to do. If your 10 month old that is now walking touches something he/she is not supposed to tell them no sternly; if they do it again then smack their hand (just enough to startle them so they know that they did wrong)! It's up to us parents to teach our kids how to be decent and law abiding people. If we have our kids and then don't take the time to teach them and discipline them because we just don't have the time to be proper parents and can't be bothered with them; then those kids are going to become out of control and eventually (probably) wind up in trouble with the law!

Answer 8

Lead by example. Children are reflections of their parents. A healthy homelife is important, too. Be consistent in your discipline. And be in unity with your spouse/SO about how you discipline and how you want to raise your children. Good luck!

Answer 9

First things...parents are getting to the point they are afraid to disipline thier children because of someone(who probly don't have kids) turning them in......the second thing is there are a lot of parents that try to be friends first and then parents....that is not right....we have to be parents first then friends. We have to be the bad guys sometimes. Start young....teach respect from the very beginning....draw clear lines in the sand....teach your kids where those lines are and disipline them when they get crossed. many parents also don't stick to their guns. They give in after a while for whatever reasons.

Start young, and stick to your guns.....be a parent first, friend second....and be prepared..we are going to make our kids mad, and we are all going to hear the "I hate you line"...but thats are job.

Answer 10

Its up to us parents to teach them right & wrong. We have to teach them good morals and learn respect. I limit my children on the t.v. they watch and video games they play (if any).
Spend as much time possible with your children and VERY important, keep the communication lines open. Its very hard in todays world, but we can do it!