what would you do ?

Question

Hi ,i have this problem and it involves my family last year for xmas all my family got my kids basically rubbish ,i am not being horrible just truthful they bought my kids clothes which didnt fit and they had lost the receipt my other brother bought a game which my kids have already ,i always spend alot of time picking things i know they need ,my other brother said to me i cant afford to buy your kids anything which is fair enough you dont give to recieve but in the next sentence he was handing out presents for the rest of the kids in my family i was really hurt and spent alot of christmas crying ,this year i dont want to buy any of my extended family except my parents do you think this is right ? when you buy something i think you should at least keep the receipt just in case this has caused a big family row because i went mad about my brother leaving my kids out when he bought everybody elses what would you do ,i am NOT being horrible about my family just truthful .

hi violet pearl it was a question yeah get it ?

Answer 1

I would just blow this off, and be the bigger person. You obviously are much nicer, just keep being that way, as what goes around comes around.

Answer 2

Well, Christmas is not about things it is about Christ. Think about it this way, What would Christ do? You seem to have commercialized your feeling for Christmas. I got some family member items as I could afford to, once I ran out of money to spend others did not get anything. As for the gift to your kids being less then you think they deserved. Who are you to judge the meaning of a gift. If this is a big issue with your family then I think you should not give anything to any one. Everyone just takes care of their own. I am sure that is in the spirit of giving? If you really want a wonderful Christmas next year, don't buy anything at all. Donate your time a shelter or with children who have nothing. Work at a food kitchen and see the faces of children who are happy just to have a meal. I am not trying to be harsh, just realistic. Christmas is about the giving, but not of gifts, it is the giving of yourself. I think you should talk with your family about how you feel to, but I would use different words, because the way you posed this questions, comes across as less then Christmas Spirited. Christ Loves you and is that not all that matter in celebrating his birth.
Tracylyn S

Answer 3

You are not alone. This happens to alot of people. They figure that at least they bought something. Mary and Joesph didn't complain when they received useless gifts. It's the thought that counts.
You gave your brother the greatest gift by accepting his broke plea, however he should have excluded everyone else as well just to be fair, unless by the timee he got to you & your family he truly was broke. Confront him on that to have a peace of mind.

Answer 4

Here is what works for our family...
We all put names in a hat and draw one name each. If you happen to pull one of your own children or your Husband..put it back in a draw again.
This way you only have to purchase one gift so you can afford something a little nicer. We do not put a minimum or maximum amount since some of my family members are less fortunate.
It is the thought that counts... besides if your focus is on receiving, you have missed the point of Christmas.

Answer 5

In my family we put out christmas lists......put a bunch of games, clothing sizes, books, movies, etc that would be nice gifts. We usually try to put gifts on the list that are a variety of prices (some family members go in together to get a more expensive gift).

Answer 6

Wasn't Christmas last year? Stop obsessing on this- you have 10 months until Christmas- get over it. And was it really necessary to spend a lot of Christmas crying over what you considered inferior quality gifts? That was being horrible.

Answer 7

Do a grab bag.... this year amoung the adults we
bought instant lottery tickets and wrapped them up
and picked.. It was fun scratching them to see who
would be the big winner.

Oh, the lottery commision was the big winner..

As for the kids... we would ask their mom what they would need
and bought each a present..

Makes things alot easier...

Answer 8

Next year, have christmas w/o them - just enjoy your own kids and be thankful for them. Christmas isnt all about gifts it is about special times with your family.

for this reason, i dont get to caught up in gift giving, myself. I've had similar problems, believe me.

Answer 9

tell them that next year you want to draw names so everybody gets the same amount of gifts. $30.oos for the adults and $20.00 for the kids and you will have extra money to buy for your mom and dad and your grand mother and grandfather. thats what we do in our family so no bodys feelings get hurt and we keep it simple.

Answer 10

Communication could be your answer, let them know how you feel. If they are not willing to listen, and do not care, then you have ta make the decision, do you want them in your life. Personaly I would not waste my time.