i have good educational background and i am more intrested in studies. i earned many titiles and always strive for it. i am in love with a guy very serious tat we cannt live without each other. i cant judge my self which is imporatant. and the time is so less that we have to deside because he is aroung 28 and have to marry now. and if i go get marry him. i have leave my career plans( to become a scientist) and if i leave him . i can really feel that everything is lost in my life and my achevment is mear waste. and if i think i can continue after marriage. i shouldn't get the break in my job because i was the R&D based . pls suggest me what i have to do
2007-02-06 04:07:05 · 12 answers · asked by bhargavi y 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Marry him. Dont be late otherwise you will suffer life long. Career can be built after marriage and its upto you how you convience him. If you loose then you will not get back. I have done a mistake by selecting the career. I am suffering alot. Now I cant do anything. I want you not to repeat this. I am sure you will suffer like anything if you coose your career.
2007-02-06 04:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by Thoole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a very serious question and not one that someone else can answer for you. it's good that you came here to get some feedback but that's all this will be.. feedback, moreso, everyone else's opinions. You will then have to sort through all of the responses that you get, but at the end of the day.. the decision has to come from D-E-E-P inside you and that is my advice to you. You have got to search your GUT feeling, the feeling you get deep down in you SOUL, HEART AND MIND!! and it's gonna be scary as hell!!! but when you know the answer, take the plunge.
Now my personal opinion is this (and I hope you don't take this the wrong way) but if this man is worthy of you THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NO REASON WHY YOU CAN'T HAVE BOTH!!!!! If he truly loves and respects you he will be right by your side all the way supporting you, encouraging you, motivating you to become the best scientist that the world has eve seen. TRUE LOVE does not give you ultimatum - it supports, it encourages, it supports, it motivates.
Marriage is a wonderful institution, a blessed union to someone who compliments you, not makes you give up on what's meaningful to you.
2007-02-06 04:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by Slim Shady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't change yourself or your ambitions because of a man. If he loves you then he should support your career and your goals. If he is forcing you to choose him or your life, then get rid of this guy!! You will be miserable and unhappy. Also, why do you HAVE to get married? So what if he's 28? Many women wait until they are in their late 20's or early 30's to get married these days. Get a life, not a marriage.
2007-02-06 04:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by lizzgeorge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who said that you have to leave your career behind if you get married............you have to live in life by the choices you make not by everyone else....marriage isn't that hard you can still be a scientist and be married remember that nothing can stop you from what you wanna do not even marriage but don't force it if you don't want to then don't but if you do then go for it because your going to do it anyway
2007-02-06 04:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you live? If you live in North America you should be able to juggle both in the same time. Its a matter of utilizing time. Hold off with the youngsters just yet. Marriage is just a bond or proof of lifelong commitment. Be happy that you found somebody that shares the rest of your life.
2007-02-06 04:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by CC Top 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to sacrifice your career plans to be with the person you love? If he's asking you to do that, to give a major part of who you are as an individual, then that's a very controlling love, and it probably won't last. Find someone who will love you for who you are, and go for your dreams!
2007-02-06 04:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love this man, be with him. True love is somewhat of a once in a lifetime thing.
However, if you have to ask whether to stay or go, maybe you already have your answer.
2007-02-06 04:11:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love.
2007-02-06 04:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't look like you have that great of an education..learn how to spell
you can be happy with both..it's just an effort to keep an even balance
2007-02-06 04:10:41 · answer #9 · answered by aerochik9675 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life
2007-02-06 04:13:42 · answer #10 · answered by marija_S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋