Is spanking your kids bad??

Question

do u spank ur kids or no?? i dont belive in beating the hell out of them...but if there bad pat that butt. i think some peoples kids would be better if they did get a spanking every now and then

Answer 1

i was spank when i was a child and i tend to do the same with my child i don't be live in time out that's just a waste of time and as for taking things that they love it doesn't make a difference spanking teaches them a lesson and when i was a child there was no time out for me there was knockout and i turn out to be just fine...so its up to you good luck.

Answer 2

I spank my kids as a last resort. I also believe a firm swat on the rear brings them back to reality so that they can see where the real problem is. I use it for constant repeat behavior, like jumping on the furniture. Sending them to time out 30 times aday was getting old, so I put my 6 year old over my knee and what a difference. Know he only needs one or two reminders a week that the couch isnt a trampoline.

Answer 3

heck yeah! some kids really need a good spanking every now & then. but like you said, no beating the hell out of them

Answer 4

I never have believed in beating a child. But, a spank to their bottom every once in a while when needed wouldn't hurt them. I was spankied as a child and I turned out fine!

Answer 5

When growing up, my parents spanked me and I am planning on doing the same with my children. I think the key is not to do it out of anger, not hurting the child and always letting the child know why they are being punished. If you have a good relationship with your child, it's a good form of punishment.

Answer 6

The trouble with spanking is you teach the kid that hitting has a place and it really doesn't. If you teach a kid that hitting is okay sometimes or justified sometimes then they can decide when they're going to use it themselves. It also teaches them to be afraid of you rather than respect you. Doing the right thing out of respect is a much better and more lasting lesson.

Answer 7

I absolutely believe in spanking kids.
not beating, not abuse, spanking Yes

Answer 8

I think spanking is totally unnecessary. It can lead to psycological problems down the road, too. It is better to do time outs, take away toys and priviledges, and talk to them. It is also more effective in my experience. I think spanking is the lazy parents way of discipline.

Discipline has to be consistent, too. Your child care providers and teachers can't spank, but they can do time outs and take away priviledges.

Spanking also teaches children that hitting is acceptable. I prefer to teach my children only to hit in self defense.

Answer 9

I have 5 children all adults now. I never spanked any of them and they all turned out beautifully. If they ever did something i disapproved of they would have consequences and I would talk to them and explain why they shouldn`t do it and ask their opinion. I would always be consistent. Set your guidelines and stick to them, the secret word is consistency

Answer 10

Yes, it's very bad!

No, I don't spank.

- It doesn't work. There is short-term compliance but less long-term obedience.
-- It escalates into further abuse, especially since the amount of force required might have to be increased over successive punishments.
-- It destroys trust and respect between children and parents/teachers.
-- It causes psychological problems in the child and in the adult the child becomes -- subservience to authority or rebelliousness, resentfulness, aggression, depression, shyness and inhibition, insecurity, mistrustfulness and feelings of being unloved, lowered self-esteem, generalised fear, stress and anxiety.
-- It correlates with higher rates of drug abuse, alcohol dependence, delinquency and crime, and violence. Corporal punishment teaches the acceptability of violence and extends the cycle. Children who are hit grow up to strike their own children and spouses.