This is a serious question. I know pornography is discouraged in the Mormon faith, but is usually just mentioned when talking to the men, and that it could be destructive. But what if a couple wants to watch it together to add spice to their sex life (which is an important part of a relationship). Sex is meant to be an enjoyable and a bonding experience (in addition to the procreation thing), so what if it really helps? Hopefully I can get some genuine answers.
[I am an active Mormon and my wife is agnostic]
2007-02-06 03:55:33 · 14 answers · asked by straightup 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No because this still involves lust. Though you may think this helps your marriage and sex life, in the long run it will do damage.
2007-02-06 06:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-24 02:52:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married Couple Porn
2016-10-02 08:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between downright porn and a romantic film. Some romantic films will include scenes meant for mature audiences, and if this helps you feel closer to your wife, then more power to you. I might suggest instead some literature that offers suggestions on spicing up your sex life.
The danger of porn might be that you will need it in the future to have satisfying sexual experiences with your wife, and you will become more reliant on the porn than on her love. The person to ask would be your bishop, but I would suggest rephrasing the question to say "Would it be ok for me and my wife to use a romantic film as a way of spicing up our sex life?" He will understand what you are saying and will at least take you seriously while he gives you advice on what to do.
2007-02-09 10:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by James, Pet Guy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Porn is porn. I'm not married, but I would think that it would be even more damaging to a relationship when the man and wife watch it together. While it may be intriguing at first, eventually one of two things could happen. One, one or the other (or both) become addicted. Two, one wants to stop watching it, but doesn't want to hurt the other persons feelings so they keep on watching it - all the while it's just eating away at the one who wants to stop.
I'm sure you would never want to hurt you wife (in any way, but especially spiritually) and in my opinion this would. And since you're a member and she's not, who's to say that she wouldn't think less of your dedication to the church and your beliefs if you watched porn as couple even once.
Just my single, never been married, no kids, virgin opinion, so take it for what it's worth.
2007-02-08 09:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by Tonya in TX - Duck 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Porn is porn, no matter who is watching it. While you may be keeping your marriage covenants you are encouraging other not to (do you really think the people in porn are all married to each other?) If you want to spice up your sex life go to a store that sells books on positions and even games to be played together. But also talk to each other and find out what you both think is involved in 'spicing' up your sex life. It is not a blanket definition as everyone has different idea on what is 'spice'.
2007-02-06 16:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by idaho gal 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, even if you both feel like it's "ok" to watch it together, I still believe it can be damaging. I have a really good friend who would watch porn with her husband...he didn't really watch it too much but wanted her to be watching it, I guess that is what turned him on - the thought of her watching it...Well, about a year later her husband developed an addiction to looking at porn on the internet...she found out just by searching for something and the word "lesbian" showed it had been searched. She was heart-broken. She found all the sites he had looked at and confronted him and he admitted to it. He admitted he had a problem and they did away with the internet in their home. He repented and spoke with the bishop and as far as I and she know, does not look at it anymore. She asked him "why" he had looked at this porn on many occasions and it was always due to curiosity, and interestingly, he said he always felt guilty each time and she saw that each site was only looked at for a few seconds before it was closed.
I firmly believe this problem was due to the "open-ness" this couple had with porn. There is nothing wrong with wanting to spice-up your sex life, but I believe it is best with only you and your partner - and even porn involves more people and creates a sense of guilt, inadequacy and uncleanliness. I know my friend always felt guilty after, and even during, and she said they only watched porn 3 or 4 times in 7 years. That's 3 or 4 times too many.
I believe what the apostles have said - Avoid pornography like it is the plague.
2007-02-06 07:30:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Mormon Sex Porn
2017-01-05 10:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, the prophet didn't say "Avoid pornography unless your watching it with your wife." It's pretty clear cut. Porno is of the devil.
Sexual relationships are meant to be kept within the bonds of marraige. By watching others indulge in sexual acts you are supporting an evil empire.
I would suggest getting a Cosmo magazine and trying the positions that are mentioned, if your really looking for something new to add to your marital relationship.
2007-02-06 07:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sergeant of Marines 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Gordon B Hinkley as well as other apostles have been pretty dang clear about pornography. Stay away at all times. It's dangerous, destructive, and addictive.
Find other ways to spice things up!
2007-02-09 21:48:01 · answer #10 · answered by Ender 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Aw, c'mon. Mormons aren't even supposed to watch R rated movies much less porn. The Morg is currently designed to control your thoughts, appearance and the kind of underwear you have.
Tell the bishop you've been watching blue movies and he'll either march you two to the Stake Pres, or condemn you to outer darkness. With luck you can be excommunicated and be able to live among real people without shame.
Good luck with any continued original thinking anyways
2007-02-09 09:13:50 · answer #11 · answered by Dances with Poultry 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋