i've been best friends with this guy for 3 years. we dated alot i the past but it always screwed our friendship. now im just got our friendship back together and now he is still obsessed with me. i told him we shouldent go back out because it might screw up our friendship but he said he promised no matter what happens we would always be best friends. so should i go back out with him or not take any chances?
2007-02-06 03:53:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no...because you will end up breaking up anyway and you dont want to wreck your friendship even more. it is better to have a true friendship then have a enemy.
2007-02-06 03:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by jennaroooo:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like no matter how hard either one of you tries to turn your friendship into a relationship things go haywire. Sometimes best friends don't have to turn into any thing more. If you both have done this more than once, I would not recommend it anymore. Let him know it can't work and why, but be polite and sincere and just explain what happens when you guys go that route and the consequences. Also explain you don't want to lose his friendship, but if he's the type that's always "all or nothing" I'd keep him at arm's length. I know it doesn't sound very nice, but sometimes in situations you can't really be "nice" to get your point across. Best wishes!!
2007-02-06 11:58:53 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound's like your in a pickle.. Ask him what he want's from you in a relationship? You already have the relationship of being best friends, what more does he want.. What do you want from him? You do decided to go back to him and things don't work out, things aren't really going to be the same, even with them promises.. He might just turn into a friend instead of a best friend.. It's really up to you.. Can you find a way were both of you win in this situation? Good luck..
2007-02-06 12:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by crazgrss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you had a "friends with benefits" moment. But three years with dating screwed your friendship? No, it seems like no boundaries were set when you established this friendship. You broke it off and now you will become friends again...are you sure you want to repeat this cycle? He may be a great guy...and promises can be broken. If you set boundaries, deciding whether to accept his friendship or not, you and him should do fine....if he wants you as a friend, that is.
2007-02-06 12:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by blckmustng2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! I was going to tell you yes at first,cuz i dated my best friend and we've been together 4 years. But since you have a bad past with him, you should avoid the situation
2007-02-06 11:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by bluemoon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go back out with him. That is all in your state of mine that your friendship will be messed up. if you go out with him as friends it shouldn't matter. What yall two are togther.
2007-02-06 11:57:30 · answer #6 · answered by nellyvbabyv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go out with him. I reckon relationships are based on good friendships.
2007-02-06 11:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems its already screwed up so go for if he still likes u then ur not friends anymore. but do what feels right to u
2007-02-06 12:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by Raven24k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i reckon you should go for. If your such good friends and it goes wrong you will be able to make it up. But you haven't said whether you really want to go out with him again.
2007-02-06 11:58:23 · answer #9 · answered by Gorg.Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn from your past. or tell him that you guys can have sex and that be it, you still want to see other people. you just want to get yours cause thats what he wants.
2007-02-06 11:58:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋