How do I spend Time with my dad again?

Question

I have only known my dad 3 1/2 Years
(Due to family issues)
For the first year i met my dad he was always spent time with me,
But when my 1/2 sister was born two years ago, my time with him gradually got shorter and shorter and now 2 years on,
He spends no time with me whats so ever,
I'm cant really say it to my dad because i feel quite guilty because before my 1/2 sister was born and after my dad would say "if you feel i am not spending enough time with you please tell me"
and now two years on and i still havnt told him.
Its slightly heart breaking for me because i go from the no.1 every saturday and wednsday(the days i see my dad) to bottom of the list. and he has no intensions of spending time with me (as such)
I am just looking for some advice on how to arise the situation with my dad and how to resolve all this mayhem.
Thank you in advance

Answer 1

Just be totally honest with him & tell him you want to spend more time together. You are lucky to spend time with him at all,there's many people who don't have relationships with their fathers. I guess it's a little harder for him as he now has a toddler to look after,but that's no excuse.
He's told you to tell him,so you won't hurt his feeings in any way.
If it's important to you,then it'll be important to him. Good luck

Answer 2

you are saying that you had known your Dad for 31/2 yrs. and now that your 1/2 sister was born, you, have not been with him for two yrs? He does not spend time with you anymore and now you want to know how to talk with your Dad, about the issue of wanting to spend more time with him. You need to clear this issue with him as soon as possible because, as the way things are looking he is the one that is ignoring his obligations to you, and is favoring the other child he has with his other wife. Maybe it is his other wife that is pressuring him not to see you more often. Do you live with your Mother? if so, why don't you mentioned to her how you feel about the way your father is ignoring you, and that you feel bad about it and you want your Dad to be part of your life since every child needs to know both parents are there for her when she needs them. I hope that you can find a solution to your problem, and that your dad will find more time for you since you are his Daughter, even though he has another Daughter, he should be part of your life, too. Good Luck, and God Bless.

Answer 3

He may also feel the strains of guilt and don't know how to take the first step. The fear of rejection is crippling to the strongest man. Tell him how important it is to you and don't be afraid to tell him face to face that you do and did feel rejected all this time. Allow him the chance to explain himself to you. No matter how lame his reasons or excuses may be they're real to him. He'll know exactly where you're coming from and you'll have a starting point for the healing process to begin. bring photo albums and share any old memory you may have together and give him the chance to share your life thru your captured moments. I lost 14 years with a child, it worked for me. Good luck.

Answer 4

Talk to your dad. The longer you keep this in, the more it's going to hurt. Your not trying to take all the attention away from your half sister, you just want to spend quality time with your dad. Maybe spend time with your dad and your sister at the same time. Just sit and talk to your father about how you are feeling.

Answer 5

You should tell him how you feel, but I know that's easier said than done. So sit down and write him a letter, and put down exactly how you feel. Don't criticise him, but tell him instead that you understand his new daughter needs his attention. But remind him gently that his first daughter need him just as much.
I am a father, and I think that I would respondd to that. If you need any help with the letter, I will be gld to help. Good luck!

Answer 6

its not only you that has to get in gear lovey your Dad should be showing you love and affection without you begging// do you think its worth the trouble you didn't say your age but if your old enough for a good friendship with a good lad then that might fill the vacant seat ! Good luck to you

Answer 7

Hi there i know how you feel, i only met my dad last year, and he dosent seem to want spend time with me what so ever, maybe ring him bring up the that you miss him? or could a family member talk to your dad?
if you need any support or further advice i would be happy to talk to you, my email is on my yahoo profile

Answer 8

why don't u take it upon your self and go visit your half sister and let your dad know that u miss him and that you'd like to spend time with your sister[she is your sister] and him or ask to take her out for walk to the park or just down the street.[at least that way u can see your dad and get to know your sister and the rest of your step family

Answer 9

when i have trouble telling some one how i fell and i have a lot of trouble with that i just sit down with a pad and paper and write a letter that was it is all said and he knows how you fell and you don't have to tell him face to face and after he has read the letter you will find he will contacted you and talk to you if you don't wont to tell him face to face i know that can be hard this will brake the ice a bit and you will find it will be easy to talk to him after he knows then things will get better because he may have just lost sight of the important things

Answer 10

Be open and honest with him. Come right out an tell him you want to spend more time with him.