When do you know it's time to move on? I mean I have days where I just want to be alone and other days when I really want him there and I just love him to death and can't stop thinking about him. We live a bit away from eachother so usually we only see eachother maybe once or twice during the week, and then once or twice over the weekend. I will be getting my own place soon meaning we can be together more often. But I'm wondering if not seeing him too often makes me feel like I want to end it? Cuz when I do finally see him I can't get enough of him. Should I wait until I get my place and see how that hashes out? Do you think not seeing him that often makes my mind change like that? I just wonder if he's become more of a habit than someone I'm in love with.
2007-02-06 03:45:39 · 6 answers · asked by glittereyedg 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
p.s. I also have a husband in the picture, who I am separated from. He plays a little role in this. We shouldn't have as much contact as we do, nothing intimate but just talking on the phone etc..He makes it harder to decide about the other. Should I be alone? Should I be single to leave my options open? And how to I tell my BF that??? I'm looking for serious answers not criticism please. I'm not a cheater.
2007-02-08 04:47:27 · update #1
There's no such thing as "in love".
"In love" means that your sexually attracted to someone.
People "love" their children, but aren't "in love" with them.
So, your hormones are raging so you should go for what you know.
2007-02-06 03:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by HottNikkels 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may 'love him' and also need time for yourself ... believe it or not, those two things are not 'mutually exclusive' ... so I think that your 'getting your own place' may actually be the BEST THING for you, because you will have both 'more time to spend with him' and 'more time to be alone' ... so you should just be VERY CAREFUL about how you 'deal with him' and DON'T let him suggest that he 'move in with you' until you are SURE that you really 'want that' to the point that you don't 'need' as much 'alone time.' I 'knew' that my now husband was 'the one' for me because every time we were together I could see only 'him' ... and I thought of what he 'needed and wanted' more than I thought of 'myself.' Now we've been married for ten years and are 'incredibly happy' ... but I still have plenty of 'alone time' if I need it, and so does he, and the times we are 'doing something together' are 'equally as good' as the times we are each 'alone' in the same apartment.
2007-02-06 12:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The basic question is what do you want? When he's gone is that when you will realise that it is love? I thought it might be the same with my boyfriend so i talked to him and i do love him and dnno what id do without him.
I think it is love because it sounds like you miss him when he is away.
2007-02-06 11:53:18 · answer #3 · answered by Gorg.Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should see if he feels the same way, if he doesn't move on...never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option!
2007-02-06 11:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by qutegyrl_81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are just being an independent girl and you have moments when you need to be alone with yourself. Don't worry, there's no problem, it's just your personality.
2007-02-06 11:50:21 · answer #5 · answered by teen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like love- it sounds unhealthy and obsessive.
2007-02-06 11:48:47 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋