heres the thing, my bf sexually harrasses me so im gonna break up with him. the problem is that he is madly in love with me and i dont wanna hurt his feelings. so what should i do. i dont want to hurt him or make me feel bad
2007-02-06 03:45:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first, if he loves u he wouldnt sexually harrass u or put u in a position (no pun intended) that u didnt wanna be in.
second, he has hurt u and if he knows he is doing it then dont let him down nice
(make it a v-day surprise)
2007-02-06 03:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by jenivive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about it first know if that's what you really want to do. Either way you should sit down with him and talk if you are sure you are going to break up with him then sit down with him and explain to him that you want to break up and why. And if you really are in love with him that much then still sit and talk with him tell him what it is that he is doing that you don't like and that if he doesn't start acting right then he is going to leave you no choice but to end the relationship. Good Luck!
2007-02-06 11:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by reses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me, but if he 'sexually harrasses you' then you SHOULD break up with him ... and the easiest and simplest way to tell him is to just 'do it' ... tell him 'I'm breaking up with you' without telling him 'why' or getting into any 'discussion' of what he or you 'did wrong.' THEN you must 'ignore him' TOTALLY ... and if he does try to 'get you back' you should state it simply again "I broke up with you, and you need to 'move on' because that's what I've done." 'Explaining why' isn't going to 'help him' or 'you' any, because you ARE 'breaking up' ... but you must 'stick to your guns' and not 'attempt' to explain, because that can get you into FAR MORE TROUBLE than it's worth. He may be 'madly in love with you' but the only way that can 'stop' is for you to 'cut him off cleanly' to begin with.
2007-02-06 12:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you can figure out how to not break up with a guy and not make him feel bad your gonna be rich.
be honest be kind and be firm . don't resort to name calling or insults just tell him your reason for not wanting to continue to see him and tell him that it was not all bad and he will be with some other girl soon . that's about it . he Will feel bad but that's life.
2007-02-06 11:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to break his heart no matter which way you break up with him. The best thing that you can do is tell him the truth about how you are feeling and leave it at that.
2007-02-06 11:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly if he abuses you he isn't in love with you so just sit down with him (if you think he might go nuts bring someone with you) have a nice long talk and tell him I don't think we should be together any longer because ... etc.
2007-02-06 11:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by Gizmo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU COME FIRST!! If you don't like the relationship your in get out! Why worry about his feelings?? If you fear for your well being pls tell someone.
2007-02-06 11:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by **Red** 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
rule numer one: don't hurt yourself just to protect someone elses feelings.
rule number two.... if you don't love him, you will hurt him eventually... it will hurt him less to do it sooner than later.
2007-02-06 11:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by foo__dd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
screw "his" feelings, this is your life! make a stand lady!
2007-02-06 11:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋