I just found that he does it on a weekly basis...
2007-02-06 03:41:26 · 34 answers · asked by Jessica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's not going to stop the doobage, honey.
Either accept it or move on. You don't have to smoke it, and if you're at a job that has random drug tests via hair method, I highly suggest you stay away when he's smokin' up....
If you stay with him, forget him ever having a "real job" with "real money", cuz anything like that drug tests...he probably works in fast food now, huh? Or for a relative...
I say find someone else if it bothers you, let him keep dating his sweet sweet baby Mary Juana
2007-02-06 03:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
He is only doing it on a weekly basis...so what is the problem? Does he have a job? Does he pay his bills? Does he go to school and get good grades?
2007-02-06 03:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've been with him for a whole year and didnt know he was smokin weed like that?!? You have got to be kidding!!!! Well considering it has been a year already, i say let it go and love him...or realize that you have no idea who your boyfriend is at all and you have been dating a completely different persinthis whole year. But it is definetly not up to you to help him. Does he even want help???
2007-02-06 03:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by cita_53103 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Showing anger is unlikely to do anything except get him defensive. So the best approach would be a combination of positive and negative responders. Smell and touch are great ways to execute this.
For example: identifying when you smell it on him, and not wanting to be close (and especially not wanting him to be intimate). But don't do it like you're punishing him, make it appear that its just really really unappealing to you. As above, if he thinks you're trying to punish him it won't work.
Unless he has a reason to stop he won't.
2007-02-06 03:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by jeffedl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
weekly? honey that's nothin. i had one once that did it constantly. i mean CONSTANTLY. he would skip the first 20 minutes of every class to do it. i kept on telling him he needed to stop now or i would leave him, and eventually i did. he stopped though, but i was doing it at that point, but then i quit. and it made me very proud of him at one point, when something bad happened to me after i quit and i called him and told him to find me some. he said no. being on both sides of this fence, i tell you it is hard. i have a friend now who was always yelling at me about doing it in high school, and is doing it now. she told me she was going to get high and i wanted to go with her incredibly bad but i didn't. i haven't smoked weed in 14 months but every time the opportunity presents itself i have to try hard to not go. and i know my ex was like that too. and you have to realize that even if you do get him to change, which you won't because he has to do it for himself, he is going to be living with these feelings for a long time. and you have to support him. he will be angry but you have to be there for him because you are the reason he quit.
2007-02-06 03:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he need help? If he drank alcohol once per week would you be trying to get him to go to rehab? There is NO difference other than the fact that weed is illegal.
It sounds like you are the one that needs help - deciding whether you can deal with his habit, which is no better or worse than having some beers once per week.
2007-02-06 03:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by Jim T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Invite the police over to watch the same TV you're watching with him -- bet he doesn't light up... and PS -- to the dingbats that think smoking weed is 'healtheir' than cigarettes, you guys must be high right now. Any smoke into your system sticks right to the lungs - the tar quotient doesn't make it healthier.
2007-02-06 03:44:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
you have to give him an ultimatim either he stops or you leave him. it can be done. smoking weed is not adicitive weather some one wants you to believe it or not. i know several people who stopped once they had children. who wants to spend money on weed when you have a future to think about.
2007-02-06 03:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by wedjb 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you can try but it may not work but i heard eating licorice is good for that... there's a shot you could try to make him get but if he refuses to let you help him .... i hate to say this but,... you might have to move on you might not be with the right guy... sorry
2007-02-06 03:47:25 · answer #9 · answered by Gizmo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can help him by helping yourself, get educated about drugs, if his somking of wed is not out of control, leave the man in peace, or ask him for a hit, it will calm ya down
2007-02-06 03:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by mflynnchf 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋