Any comment: once a cheater always a cheater!?

Answer 1

the cheater will only change when they experience the hurt behind the cheating. when it's them on the receiving end of it. and not until. think a cheater is basically always a cheater unless something makes them change, either they get too old, and their prospects aren't there anymore. but basically i think a cheater will always return to it because it is who they are it is part of their character, and what is in their belief system.

Answer 2

Speaking from personal experience, NO. I have been in a number of relationships. The longest being 3 years and my now soon to be ex is almost two years. I never cheated before but I did on my current boyfriend which will soon be my ex. I am breaking up with him.
The reason I say no is that I thought I would never cheat but I did. And it was basically because I was getting no attention from my boyfriend, thus I have decided to break up with him. He's 3000 miles away, I see him once every 3 or 4 months and he never calls or email me. Because of this, I met someone and one thing led to another. He made me feel wanted and gave me the attention I was craving.
Had my boyfriend given me what I needed from him, I would not have cheated. I told him, but he shrugged it off. I know cheating fixes nothing but at the time I needed that. I would not do that again because it hurt me in the end also.
I used to think like most people posting here. Once a cheater always a cheater. But once you have done it, it takes on a whole new meaning. Easier said than done!

Answer 3

When it comes to relationships, this is true. If they can cheat on you once, it's likely that they will fall under temptation and cheat again. It's bad so lose the cheater.

Answer 4

Not always. A person has to change their schema about life. The person has to understand that with relationship comes responsibility. But until that person changes deep down with the realization that the opposite sex is not just an outlet from their current relationship, then they will always fall back into their old habits. They must rely on the relationship in this case as the foundation of their life. That is true for just about everything.

Answer 5

This is just pure ignorance. A way for weak people to justify their inability to trust. I am sure in life we have all done something we are not proud of. Would it make sense for someone to say you are that very thing you did from that point forward? To say you can't change. Everyone is capable of change. It's so funny that some of the very people that say stuff like that are the very ones that have done it but are hiding behind secrecy. We all do stupid things does that make you that thing for the rest of your life? I think not. Stop buying into this foolishness.

Ignorance is bliss.

Answer 6

Once is enough for me. My ex had an abortion (wasn't mine), and I tried to deal with it for 2 years, but just couldn't regain the trust I wanted to have in a partner. I even tried to talk her out of the abortion. We were together for 21 years.

Answer 7

I totally agree with this! thats why im no longer with my now ex. she cheated twice, even after she said i ment the world to her.

Answer 8

i don't think so..
i guess my bf has cheated on past gf's
but i'm not worried about him cheating on me..

i think once you find the right person you know and you no longer need to go looking else where..

if your cheating on someone obviously you don't care about them and they are not the person for you

Answer 9

When your partner cheats on you, he/she has no respect for you or themselves. When you make love, do you wonder where that thing of his has been? Get checked for STD's, including HPV.

Answer 10

yes, once you lose your self-respect, it's going to be easier the next time.