I have always loved my brother to bits. We have been very close and good friends. Our childhood memories still thrills me. Being an elder sister, I have always fullfiled my duties towards my brother. But since he has got married(love marrige), I feel that he is going away from me... We don't talk in the same way as we use to, his wife always feels insecure when I am around or when he talks to me or about me. What should I do? How can I make my self understand..... I don't know. But it hurts..... a lot!
2007-02-06 03:24:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
tell him how u feel.who is she too pull him away from u? his wife? so what? blood is thicker than water. go on a lunch date with ur bro and let him whats on ur mind.
2007-02-06 03:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by boricuaspot21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard situation to be in. I would talk to him about it though. Tell him you know that he has a wife and all, but that you miss him and the time you guys used to spend together. All you can do is state your feelings. It's sounds as if you two are very close...(shame on the person who said it sounds like you have the hots for your brother...obviously they have not had a deep close relationship with someone other than a sexual orientated one.) I'm sure your brother will be able to set your mind at ease, once everything is out in the open. Everything will work out.....
2007-02-06 11:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is normal, Your brother is moving on with an adult life and so should you. The relationships we have as kids with our sibling change as we go into our adult life. Sounds like his wife is feeling smothered by the attention you are asking for. If he is newly married, back off and give them some room to get to know their marriage. I am sorry it is painful and I do sympathize, I have had to watch all my kids get older and move out and take wives and have their own families. Instead of feeling left behind, take some pride in the fact that your brothers ability to be independent and self sufficient, most likely has a lot to do with the great loving support you and your family supplied to him. Be proud of his life, and try not to invade it.
Tracylyn S
2007-02-06 12:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is always hard to let go of the ones we love. However, you need to understand that although you will always have your special place, he now has another family. You can try sharing that family or if not possible, then keep your special time- once a week call, twice a month visit, etc, something routine that you can both look forward to. With no one else, even his wife.
2007-02-06 12:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is natural progression after a man marries. His wife may be aware that you are close and either wants him to herself or may feel hurt that he doesn't talk to her about feelings the way he may do to you. I must admit I purposely alienate my husband from his sister but for good reasons. She is functionally retarded from fetal alcohol syndrome and she is always doing things like trying to break us up and giving my husband dope and trying to hook him up with other woman especially strippers as she feels like her brother should be financially supported by a woman instead of the other way around....Like I said I have many good reasons. But in your case may be you could try being friends with her. While he a may now have a wife he is your brother for life. Invite them both over for dinner or out with you. I know it may be difficult but the sad fact is you must share him now. Good luck!
2007-02-06 11:36:20 · answer #5 · answered by Destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make time for you and him lunch once a month so you still get to catch up with him and spend time together without interferring in his life with his wife. Keep your brother/sister bond alive by setting aside time alone also learn to socialise and visit him while his wife is home if you learn to get along with his wife this will be easier on him, stop by and visit them both now and then.
2007-02-07 00:43:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His wife has to accept you. You were there long before she was. You will always be a part of his life. You are his sister. Talk to him about how you are feeling.
2007-02-06 11:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by sanj 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hes ur brither u have the right to see him but some ties need to be cut coz hes also starting a new life with his wife respect their space
2007-02-06 11:28:29 · answer #8 · answered by ladyluck 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you aren't losing him, he is just living his life as so should you.
2007-02-06 11:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by barb 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋