ok. i am now 18. my parents got a divorce when i was 13 and i have 4 brothers and sisters so i kind of had to be the fill in parent. i wasn't allowed to date till i was 16. and now that i am 18 and in a long term relationship my father is tightening rules. i have never smoked in my life.. don't plan to, i don't drink, i go to college, have a full time job that i have had for 1 1/2 years, and been with my boyfriend for a long time. granted yes i usually fall asleep when i get home from a long day but he is making me still have a curfew, i can' use my car for anything but school and work, i can only see my boyfriend for 2 days out of the week, i have no key to my house cause he doesn't trust me. but i don't party... what can i do to make things better? :(
2007-02-06 03:24:07 · 12 answers · asked by booger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sit down and discuss this with him, remember you're 18 now and could always move away if things don't improve. Thinking he is being over strict and should allow more freedon if he wants to keep his family in his life.
2007-02-06 03:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by singledad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you tell me, dad sounds a little over the top. Frankly, I can't think of what you can do to make things better. You have demonstrated that you are responsible over and over again. The fact that you don't have keys for your house is particularly troubling in that IMO it is a sign of deep and undeserved distrust ... or control. It feels borderline "abusive" to me.
I think you should start looking as to how you might be able to move out of the house and into a place of your own. It would be easier and less chaotic for you to move out than try to change your dad's mind.
I would not tell your dad about your plans. My guess is that he would "go off". Share it with you bf and a trusted adult who can help you plan. When everything is set, move out. Leave him a note as to why you did this. I think you will be a lot happier and much relieved.
2007-02-06 03:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by morahastits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same here! im morman so all of those rules have been tied on me too. ur parent is scared to let u go. he sees that ur growing up and thinks he is lossing u. i went through the same thing. honestly. the best thing u can do is be honest with him. sit him down , tell him how u feel, ask him what u have done, and if u can fix it. Maybe he will open up and be honest with u too. but do this calmly bcuz it maybe a touchy subject. good luck to u.
2007-02-06 03:38:49 · answer #3 · answered by Panictwilight18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move in with your mother or a relative.You will never be able to please him or make him see you anything other than an unpaid servant in his house. You did not have to become the fill in parent, you should have made/allowed him and your mom grow up and be the full time parents.
2007-02-06 03:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe she can be in love with her father, but it could be something deeper, a resentment from not knowing each other until later in life. It is hard to say. I think it could go on for a long time, unless the girl really is in love with the right guy and stays with him.
2016-05-23 23:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, her is the thing. You are 18. When I was 18 and graduated, I took off, and became my own Independant being.
He should let you make your own rules, but give boundaries within a certain limit of your understanding.
2007-02-06 03:27:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
move out. it sounds like your dad is not accepting you as an adult. Maybe before moving sit down,just you and your dad, and try to talk about how you feel. if it doesn't work, then find yourself an apartment, and then tell him you will be moving, here's your number, adress, etc. Just please stay responsible while on your own! that way you can prove that you are an adult and deserve the respect! Good luck!
2007-02-06 03:28:55 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move out. you are 18 and he can't tell you to do anything. you have been dealing with him your whole life now it is time to live it like you want to. trust me. my parents didn't agree with me but i didn't talk to them for a couple of years, and now we have a better relationship because they realized i need to learn things and grow up on my own.
2007-02-06 03:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about moving out or living on campus. You may have to give up the car, but it would show your ****** father that you are responsible enough and trustworthy enough to make your own decisions.
2007-02-06 03:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough dad, you will probably appreciate it someday. Soon, you will be able to move out on your own. That appears your only real option.
2007-02-06 03:28:35 · answer #10 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋