have had problems with there boyfriends or husband just because u weren't a virgin? Does he/they bring it up or talk s**t every time there's a fight?
2007-02-06 03:15:32 · 20 answers · asked by lupe s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had this problem for quite awhile. Trust me I hated it too. I always felt like he thought he was better than me.
2007-02-06 03:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have never had that happen. Your past is your business, and as long as you know you aren't carrying a disease, he doesn't need to know anything further.
If being with a virgin was so important to him, he should have been more selective when picking a GF or wife.
I think that is just cruel, personally. It is something he says to be hurtful. He knows it is not something you can ever change or make any different, so he has lifelong ammunition to try to make you feel bad whenever he wants. What a jerk.
2007-02-06 11:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is with your boyfriend and he discovered that you were not a virgin while he was trying to get inside you then he should know that he is just doing the same thing that some other luckier guy got o do first. Then he could shut up and enjoy or just go home.
2007-02-06 11:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he a virgin? I doubt it. So he shouldn't be throwing your past in your face when you fight or try to make you feel bad about it. I'd ditch this guy he sounds like a real a--hole. He is insecure and jealous and probably concerned that he isn't measuring up to the other guys you were with.
2007-02-06 12:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they use sex against you, its totally not a true relationship. That happened to me a few months ago with my ex we were fighting and he told me that i'm so sensitive and that i take no chances in having sex with him. Yes i am still a virgin. I broke up with him for that. If you're really in loe he'll handle it nicely not hold it against you. Thats called TAKING ADVANTAGE. whether you think or not. Remember my quote. "being loved is when you feel so happy and appreciated on the inside that you glow on the outside."
2007-02-06 11:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
assalam o alikum
alhomdillah (thank God) i have no such problem, u know y?
because in Islam, our Creator instruct us not to have illegal sex. only do it with ur husband.
i guess its the basic thing, no one want that their wife should lose their virginity before marriage.
and this is one of the reason that in non-muslim the divorce rate is high.
everyone is obeying instincts. not following the proper rules which will make everyone comfortable
may Allah (God) guide us towards the right path, ameen
2007-02-06 11:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by Muslim 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow i can't even begin to telll you how much this has happened to me.
it is like as soon as you start arguing they have to bring up every person that you have done **** with, just to piss you off.
DON'T give in to it and let it piss you off. That is EXACTLY what they want to happen, because they know that us as girls feel bad about it.
You need to let him know that you have made mistakes in your past and that he needs to move on with his life. It is not like you did stuff in your past to hurt him...You didn't know him, so it shuoldn't bother him.
You just need to let him know that the relationship can't work unless he grows up a little bit and gets over something that is really not his business.
I hope that this helped, I have been through this too, and it sucks... Good luck! xoxo
2007-02-06 11:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love and Fight, don't mix. If there's Fighting. There's no Love. No Love. No reason to be there. Simple!
2007-02-06 11:21:25 · answer #8 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex bf brings it into a fight b/c i didnt lose it to him after we were together for 5 years, but other then that no.
2007-02-06 11:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by ~ ★ ~Soulja Girl~ ★ ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to put you on a guilt trip.Tell him have a cup of wake the heck up because its 2007!! He must respect you & if he doesnt,,he can get steppin'.
2007-02-06 11:19:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋