after having my first child whats a good amount of time to wait to have another?

Answer 1

This totally depends upon You, your husband and the family that you want to create. I have known people to have kids in a varriety of age differences, what is 'best' is unique to each family.

My kids are exactly 3 years apart (unplanned) and they are so close it freaks me out. My daughter is 9, my son is 6.
My sister-in-law is 10 years younger than her brother. Her mom & dad tried for YEARS to have another baby and finally gave up and then she appeared - they were shocked! She & her brother are Really close. Much closer than I am to my brother who is 3 years younger than me.
I used to work with a lady who had a sister 2 years older than her. They were total opposites and hated each other! Their parents had a son when my freind was 9 - and she and her little brother are very, very close!
I know another family who had 4 kids, exactly 4 years apart on purpose. For them that was the 'best' age to bring in another sibling.

I find that parents set the tone for their families and for the affection or disention between the kids. And,,,,no matter what you work hard to foster, kids come in with their own personality, oppinions, feelings ETC so you can only control so much.
I say, go with your gut. Go with what feels right for you and your family. What ever age differences your kids have will be the 'right' thing for you family.

Answer 2

Everyone you ask will tell you something different. It depends on you and your situation. My kids (grown up now) are 2 1/2 years apart. There were many times I wished the gap was a little larger. I was glad she was potty trained before he was born. I think most Mom's will agree that it helps to get that over with while you have enough time to focus on it.

If I had to do it over again I'd make it 3 to 31/2 years.

Answer 3

Mine 1st 2 children are 2 yrs & 3 months apart & even as adults they are the closest of friends. When young they played well together & entertained each other, as teenagers they participated in alot of same activities & had mutual friends. My daughter would even let my son join her on some dates (bowling, golf, even some movies) so he is close to my son in law too.
The difference in my son's & youngest daughters is 5 yrs & 8 months - what a diasater! They have argued from day one. My son has a gentle personality but she brings out the worst in our Army Ranger & always has. On her wedding day, she admitted she had always been envious of their relationship & felt like she was adopted or something. It was sad for me - she looks just like I did at that age & was so sad not to have a brother or sister to be close to. Big spaces did not work for us. (she was a surprise after 4 miscarriages though - a true gift from God).
I am 22 months from my sister & we are still really close in our 50s. I want to tell her everything 2nd - after my husband.

Answer 4

I like 2 years. That was my plan but have been trying for 2 1/2 now. I don't want them to be to far apart. I think 4 years might be a bit much.

Answer 5

it's a good idea to have your first child be potty trained before bringing another baby into the house. having two children in diapers is VERY expensive.

Answer 6

whenever you're ready! I think between 2-5 years... but I'm pregnant with my first and he's going to have a step-brother who is 7 years older than him

Answer 7

i was told by my doc to wait at least 1 year and by the way i just had a baby so just wait a little you don't want to end up looking like Brittney spears...

Answer 8

my son was 21/2 when I had my daughter but you can wait as little or as long as you want ♥

Answer 9

you should wait at least 1to2 years that way you wont have to worrie about it

Answer 10

go for it right away. your man would really appreciate it